This is surprisingly common among D-types, and actually mostly takes a little practice to find your entry into it.

First of all: What you say matters much less than how you say it. I have been spouting nonsense, trivia, lecturing popscience with great effect.

How you say it will have to be tailored to you. Use mannerisms, modes and phrases as you please, it is partly conveying your dominance that you choose (power of agency), and also the simplest way to keep communicating clearly.

Also, you’ll want to find how the words complement your actions. I’m thinking that you’re used to using words in tandem with your other implements, and just need to broaden your repertoire. Start easy: use one thing less, introduce one new thing, or do it with grabbing/slapping/spanking interweaved between your comfortable combos.

For me, dominance is about keeping the initiative, supporting submissive behaviors, and rewarding good behaviour. One favorite game is thus to create a setting where it’s easy for my sub to service, like with some posture training, certain rope play, showing off, etc. I then make sure to keep them off balance enough that I still get to call the shots. “Arms higher, eyes down, chest out and breathe deeply for me, let me see that body move, dance, for me. What a lovely little body, and capable of so much pleasure as well. Arms higher! Don’t make me correct you again, it will be far less pleasant…”, and of course when they behave they get “good pet”, strokes and orgasms as appropriate.

As they surrender/space, they won’t be paying much attention to the actual words, and I can modulate my voice to say almost anything, and then just change it when I want them to pay attention.

This is loads of fun with brats, they often come up with rebellious ideas, and when talking like it’s easy to have them lose track, and eventually agree to the opposite of their point, or for even more fun, to agree that I pervert it into something they didn’t actually want. “Oh you want to escape from the ropes now? wWell, you should really have said so earlier, so that I could plan a proper rope session safe enough for you to struggle in, now I have to do all this extra work to make sure nothing risks slipping in a dangerous way, taking me out of my flow, and also not giving me a proper chance to RACK the session. I think the only way we’re going to have this work is if I get to watch very closely, so that I can interrupt if something dangerous happens. Now, how would we go about making sure you notice me while you’re struggling? I’m thinking we’re gonna need something that makes a noise, and physical sensation enough for you to notice, don’t you agree? Good thing I have this cane handy here, I’ll also need to make sure nothing is too tight or has restricted blood flow, so I’ll also be poking you with the cane from time to time to make sure. And as I’m going through all this trouble for you, you’ll have to do something for me as well, that’s only fair no? How about you show me some appreciation for all this extra work, how about you continuously praise me for being such a generous, caring and nice dom? At least until you’ve broken free.”

In that barrage of semiplausible phrases, you can easily substitute any activity (maybe you get to spit in their mouth to gauge if they’re still OK? Or get to tickle them? Or use a rolled up newspaper? Or have appreciation breaks with praise and/or oral pleasure?)

There are countless ways to communicate, so what works for you may differ, and that is as should be.

You can:

-Build anticipation by making her guess what you will do next and where on her body you will do it as you trace over her body with your fingers. It helps if she’s blindfolded.

-Include commands, name-calling, possessive talk, and teasing her if she likes that.

-Make her beg for your cock or to punish her. Have her tell you what she’ll do to earn it.

One part body language, one part voice control, and one part words

A lot of dominance is about how you approach a person, right? You tie them up, bend them over, whatever, but it’s about establishing position. So when you can’t touch or do that, you use your body. Get closer to them, inside their space. Loom over them, even if you happen to be shorter. By owning their space, you control their mind at least a little.

Then, you use your voice. Going deeper is helpful. A growled threat is often more effective than a slap, and it’s almost always better than your normal voice. Volume matters, but not louder. You’re in close already, so put some menace into your voice, lean in a little closer, and drop the volume. A little audible sneer may go well for a brat too.

When choosing words, I tend to like starting with questions, especially when someone is playing brat. You lure the brat out, ask them if they know what’s going to happen if they don’t obey. As soon as they start to answer, interrupt and tell them only to answer when told to. Ask again, let the brat start to surface and interrupt with a sharp sound, like slapping your own leg, or a table, then tell them you didn’t say they could talk.

Some brats escalate, others are going to be shaken out of it since most brat play is about the acting out and eventual punishment. So, when you change the script, it flips a different switch in their head, it breaks out of the expected. When you do that, it doesn’t matter if they escalate, because you double down on the quiet and forceful side or things. If it breaks them into being a good little girl the first few times, that’s great too; nothing wrong with an easy move into their headspace.

You can, with a bit of luck and some practice, get some subs all the way into their subspace with no touches at all, if you keep ramping up the pressure by using your presence and voice.

It helps if you imagine them tied up or on their knees as well. Getting into the right metal space makes the performance easier because it stops being a performance, you become menacing and in control.

I can’t promise it’ll work, as obviously everyone is different, and your little brat may need a different scene. But it usually does work when doing something physical isn’t possible.

When she mouths off, ask her what she’s expecting to happen next

It may open a door for her to ask you for something, if she goes quiet, you have the options of either telling you what you’ll do, or saying something like “I thought so”

As with all things, there are a few options, you can move into the space, you can withdraw and let them fall, you can brush it aside and move how you choose, you can meet them head-on

You can remain silent, describe what you plan to do, gag her, there are so many options

Brats take work, that’s part of the dynamic!

They push us