Hi NSFW!

I’m looking for advice on verbal dominance. My life partner would love for me to get a bit better in that regard.

A little background:

I’m a dom, definitely. I’ve had several subs, do a lot of rigging and scenes, and in scene I’m very much vocally dominant. But that is because I have the leverage of whips and chains on my side.

The moment that goes away, as bratty as she is, I suddenly find myself out of words to use, and become a little uncertain on what to say, how to act, to keep her attention.

We’ve already talked about it but she can’t really explain what she needs to hear (and just reiterating that endlessly is bound to be uninteresting after a while).

Any tips, ideas, pointers, resources are welcome!