Do you think 21-, 22- and 23-year-old women and men should be allowed to consent to sex with older adults 10-20 years older than them? Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should. One could argue that an adult in their 40s or 50s who chooses to date someone 21-23 or 22-24 deserves to die. I have heard these arguments before.

What do you think?

    • athairmor@lemmy.worldEnglish
      6·
      3 days ago

      Yeah, there’s something very sus about this one user constantly asking questions involving age gap relationships.

  • ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.comEnglish
    8·
    4 days ago

    TL;DR I think that’s stupid.

    Never heard such an argument before. There’s a distinction between what’s ethical and what’s legal, but age is merely an approximation for several factors: mental development, experience, the capacity for agency and consent, “life stage”, and various social/cultural nuances. It’s not practical nor feasible to define or test all of the possible metrics for every case: we must draw the line somewhere, and that somewhere is defined as a sufficiently developed brain and the (presumed) capacity for meaningful consent. Anything beyond that has exponential less significance… There’s a common saying: “half your age plus 7”; not that anything else is immediately unacceptable but that it may be suspect or deserving of greater scrutiny. Ultimately it doesn’t really matter so long as the meaningful consent requirement is satisfied. Unless someone can point to some data about significantly worse outcomes or harms, it’s my belief that age delta is largely irrelevant. And even if that were the case, it doesn’t automatically mean that such things should be restricted or socially punished (e.g. drinking and smoking causes harm but is permitted)

  • hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    3 days ago

    (Age/2)+7

    There’s a reason for this rule. I have seen how different people around 20yo are vs people around 30yo. Afaik they are legally allowed to do that. The bigger the age difference the higher the chance that there is grooming or manipulation involved. 10 years is too much.

    Look, no one should die but that age rule is very good to understand ethical boundaries. I’m sorry, but if a 30yo dates a 20yo it will always be weird to me and I will question what is going on behind closed doors.