I made a post on Showerthoughts saying if you are a guy and you are a virgin at 22 years old, you are fucked because most women in their 20s have sexual experience, so if you are a 22-year-old guy, a woman who’s 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, or 30 wouldn’t want to date you because they have sexual experience already.
However, I could be wrong, so do some women with sexual experience date a virgin? If so, why?
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Because virginity doesn’t matter. Only people who are very weird care about it.
I would say there are a lot of indirect reasons related, particularly if we assume most in that situation are probably not going to get some massive change to those factors (even in a year).
More direct, it’s very likely (and understandable) that someone might just say “I don’t want to deal with this shit again” especially before forming any sort of attachment. Heck, “I’m not your therapist” is a sentiment that already exists relating to dudes who have been in relationships.
That said, 22 is a low number for this context and OP is definitely weirdly obsessed with it.
Being in the mid 20s and not having banged someone can also be a sign of poor attitudes towards the opposite sex. Like incels and femcels.
But that will be a much greater red flag to a relationship then being a virgin.
Being in the mid 20s and not having banged someone can also be a sign of poor attitudes towards the opposite sex. Like incels and femcels.
What if someone was homeschooled for all of their childhood, and they didn’t have the opportunity to date or have sex? What if a kid grew up in a super religious household, and their parents shamed them relentlessly for even thinking about having sex?
Then that sounds like a bad environment for a childs social development and who knows what kind of other effects that will have on future relationships.
You don’t have to tell people that you’re a virgin … problem solved.
However, I could be wrong, so do some women with sexual experience date a virgin?
Yes. Source: my life. Having sexual experiences does not mean you only want to date people with sexual experiences. Your premise is flawed from the get-go.
If so, why?
Why not? Sex is a normal human desire for a majority of people. Whether someone has had sex previously or not doesn’t change that fact. Why should it matter if someone has a body count or not?
I think a better question is: Why is your picture of women so messed up? Why do you think they are so absurdly shallow that they have these arbitrary standards? Women are humans, not some separate species. You want to fuck, and so do they.
If they don’t want to fuck you in particular, that’s not because you’re 22 and a virgin, that’s more likely because you have this weird view about what women are like that influences your thoughts and behavior.
And to be completely honest, you sound like someone who has been listening to toxic masculinity goobers like Andrew Tate, or at least other people who listen to them. My recommendation: go out and meet some women. Make friends with them. Actually bother to learn about them as individuals, and notice how they’re not at all like the caricature you’ve invented.
If I choose a sexual partner I think about me being safe, their ability to communicate (I like this, dislike that) and their ability to respect my wishes as well. This is not dependent on experience, instead there are many more factors.
The only reason I am even wondering about this, is because men are insecure and ashamed about their inexperience and belittle themselves or others. hint
No, you should not pursue younger women.
Honestly, it sounds like you’re looking for an excuse to expand your dating pool in an inappropriate direction. As others have pointed out, your perspective is not aligned with reality which leads you to incorrect assumptions about women. They are people just like you. Would you have a problem with a 22 year old virgin woman?
I don’t think about if they are a virgin or not. Don’t care if they have been with 0 people or 100, it’s not something that interests me for choosing dates.
When having sex, it’s nice if they have experience, but it doesn’t matter, really.
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