Listen, I’ve had some great cats. One in particular was so chill and cuddly when he got diabetes and I had to give him insulin injections twice a day, he would jump up and then snuggle and purr after. Greatest cat ever. That cat had his own cat who was super skiddish with people. If you looked up scardy cat you wouldn’t see a picture of this cat because he would run and hide if you pointed your attention in their direction, let alone a camera. They had radically different personalities. There are also asshole cats. Frankly a lot of them (kinda like people).
I think some people have interacted mostly with the assholes and choose not to continue, it’s at least a bit understandable.
I have in fact not met any asshole cats, the worst i’ve experienced is cats outdoors who scurry away when approached.
If a cat is “an asshole” then something is probably wrong, maybe it has an injury/disease that no one realizes because cats instinctively hide that, or it’s being mistreated somehow without people realizing it.
All the cats i’ve gotten close to have been lovely, not necessarily actively cuddly at all times but if they don’t want snuggles it will be quite obvious and then i just leave them alone and that’s that.
Replace “cat” on that argument with “person” and it sounds a lot like dating someone because you plan to “fix them” or think “if I just love them enough”
I don’t like like cats because they remind me of shitty people I’ve dated.
Edit: and the immediate downvote (or arguments in real life) reminds me of times when you say “hey… your partner is kinda mean to you sometimes” only to hear “YOU DONT KNOW THEM LIKE I DO!!! THEY LOVE ME!!!”
So saying “I don’t like cats because they remind me of shitty people I’ve dated” reads to me like you probably don’t understand how they’re communicating with you, and you’re accidentally crossing some boundaries.
I have two cats, sisters from the same litter. One is an asshole that only shows affection for the two hours before feeding time. The rest of the day is pure asshole.
The other one who grew up in literally the same situation from birth is generally pleasant.
The only asshole cats I have met were assholes because they lived outside and taught other animals daily, or they had been abused by a human. Otherwise they are just skittish.
But as a percentage, I would say of the cats that I have met, I have been able to pet 95%.
I think finding some cats to be assholes could be not understanding them too.
I had a cat growing up people would generally have called an asshole cat. Thing was that he REALLY didn’t like being pet, except for head scritches. So people would see him and try to pet him and he would swipe and hiss at them in response. I get why they saw him as an asshole cat when they just saw him act that way.
If you relaxed around him and only scritched his head, he was actually lovely. He didn’t really like cuddling either, though he liked sitting near you.
This has been my experience with people not understanding cat language. They think a swinging tail is friendly, or a side eye means being judgemental instead of weary, or that eye contact means attention instead of defiance, or that licking their lips means they think some thing’s tasty instead of a social deflection. Lol
It goes back to the meme at the top. If you think all cats should be in love with you and enjoy any kind of physical interaction you like, you’re going to call cats assholes, but if you consider the cat’s preferences for physical interaction to be paramount and read up about cat body language so you can interpret what your cat means, you’ll have a very different interpretation indeed.
You have never met an asshole cat?
Listen, I’ve had some great cats. One in particular was so chill and cuddly when he got diabetes and I had to give him insulin injections twice a day, he would jump up and then snuggle and purr after. Greatest cat ever. That cat had his own cat who was super skiddish with people. If you looked up scardy cat you wouldn’t see a picture of this cat because he would run and hide if you pointed your attention in their direction, let alone a camera. They had radically different personalities. There are also asshole cats. Frankly a lot of them (kinda like people).
I think some people have interacted mostly with the assholes and choose not to continue, it’s at least a bit understandable.
I have in fact not met any asshole cats, the worst i’ve experienced is cats outdoors who scurry away when approached.
If a cat is “an asshole” then something is probably wrong, maybe it has an injury/disease that no one realizes because cats instinctively hide that, or it’s being mistreated somehow without people realizing it.
All the cats i’ve gotten close to have been lovely, not necessarily actively cuddly at all times but if they don’t want snuggles it will be quite obvious and then i just leave them alone and that’s that.
Replace “cat” on that argument with “person” and it sounds a lot like dating someone because you plan to “fix them” or think “if I just love them enough”
I don’t like like cats because they remind me of shitty people I’ve dated.
Edit: and the immediate downvote (or arguments in real life) reminds me of times when you say “hey… your partner is kinda mean to you sometimes” only to hear “YOU DONT KNOW THEM LIKE I DO!!! THEY LOVE ME!!!”
Da fuq
Valid argument but I stand by what I said.
Just for the record I don’t “hate” cats. Have a cat if you want. I’ll even pet and play with your cat.
Just don’t come at me like there’s something wrong with me because I don’t want my own pet cat.
Don’t get me wrong, the image is totally unfair.
I’m only objecting to the “it sounds a lot like dating someone because you plan to ‘fix them’” because cats are usually misunderstood. They have their own body language, which is very different and sometimes opposite to that of dogs.
So saying “I don’t like cats because they remind me of shitty people I’ve dated” reads to me like you probably don’t understand how they’re communicating with you, and you’re accidentally crossing some boundaries.
Wrong guess again.
I have two cats, sisters from the same litter. One is an asshole that only shows affection for the two hours before feeding time. The rest of the day is pure asshole.
The other one who grew up in literally the same situation from birth is generally pleasant.
The only asshole cats I have met were assholes because they lived outside and taught other animals daily, or they had been abused by a human. Otherwise they are just skittish.
But as a percentage, I would say of the cats that I have met, I have been able to pet 95%.
I think finding some cats to be assholes could be not understanding them too.
I had a cat growing up people would generally have called an asshole cat. Thing was that he REALLY didn’t like being pet, except for head scritches. So people would see him and try to pet him and he would swipe and hiss at them in response. I get why they saw him as an asshole cat when they just saw him act that way.
If you relaxed around him and only scritched his head, he was actually lovely. He didn’t really like cuddling either, though he liked sitting near you.
This has been my experience with people not understanding cat language. They think a swinging tail is friendly, or a side eye means being judgemental instead of weary, or that eye contact means attention instead of defiance, or that licking their lips means they think some thing’s tasty instead of a social deflection. Lol
It goes back to the meme at the top. If you think all cats should be in love with you and enjoy any kind of physical interaction you like, you’re going to call cats assholes, but if you consider the cat’s preferences for physical interaction to be paramount and read up about cat body language so you can interpret what your cat means, you’ll have a very different interpretation indeed.