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  • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
    17·
    29 days ago

    So glad I never married my ex. They proposed just after HS, and I purchased the ring they picked out. $35 bucks.

    I burned it along with the lovebomb letters and keepsakes they’d given me, and threw it all in the trash, after we broke up.

    Now I live in an apartment, with my partner and cat. We drink and go out, we stay in and chill together. He hasn’t forced me into a shape to fit him. It’s liberating to find a person who gives you permission to be yourself, unapologetically. I don’t need a partner, but I found who I am because they encouraged me to do so.

    Just a little appreciation of the way my life changed.

    Now to pawn off the el cheapo gold and diamond necklace my ex gave me lol

    • tone212_@aussie.zone
      6·
      29 days ago

      I’m glad you someone who uplifts you like this, enriches your life, and you don’t have to be a shell of yourself. I hope to find the same!

      • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
        6·
        29 days ago

        A partner, I’ve learned, is someone who helps you be more “you”. I hope you find that someone too, we all deserve to have someone love us for being unapologetically us

      • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
        8·
        29 days ago

        I was an operations/billing consultant, 6 years in at an old job, and he was a temp in the call centre (where I had initially started). The works Xmas party was coming up, and because we (call centre, credit/payment plans, and billing/backend) were a small team, we didn’t feel it was fair to exclude the temps from the Xmas party. So we successfully lobbied to have them invited too, it was some ritzy expensive place near docklands. Anyway, my partner (obvs not at the time) and I hit it off that night and I spent the night at his place 👀😅

        Had to go home the next day to a very angry ex, as she was still living with me while her parents set up their bungalow for her 😂😂😂😂 once she moved out in the new year (2019), that temp needed a pkace to stay as his share house fell through. He never left. He was meant to go back to Perth and then onto Canada for a job there. But yeah, what was a temporary stay with a FWB has turned into a 5 year relationship hahahaha now we have a cat so I guess we’re serious LOL

        sorry for the long story haha! I just think it’s a funny story heh

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
      4·
      29 days ago

      so many hugs, so happy you found the right guy 💖

      one thing I don’t understand, it just doesn’t make sense, these people choose us for all our traits and personality and what we do, yet they try to crush that and stop us from doing those things

      • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
        5·
        29 days ago

        Ikr. In the case of my ex, I think they were always MTF trans, and before they realised, they took me and tried to force me into what they wanted to be themselves. Besides the actual sexual crimes they commited against me, I think that was theit reason for trying to make me more “feminine”. Their reason was they were helping me find my “girlhood” after my mum forced me to dress like a boy when I was a teen so men didn’t stare at me lol.

        One extreme to another gosh. Childhood trauma can really set up some nasty adult relationships. I’ve found a happy medium now dw my wardrobe has lovely sundresses, skirts, pants, and shirts haha

  • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
    15·
    29 days ago

    bro sent an email to ol’ boy/girl last night. Basically a rant… i’ll write a list:

    1. Unfair that they can’t force room changes.
    2. SIL is pregnant so they want an extra room for them when they visit (which is for a day or two a year).
    3. It’s my fault they don’t visit because I told them to fuck off when they tried to change sleeping arrangements last xmas.
    4. Family doesn’t respect the fact SIL is pregnant (ol’ boy who is in a related field hooked them with IVF and paid for it).
    5. Family doesn’t respect their marriage (ol’ boy paid for their wedding)
    6. That it ‘hurts’ they aren’t getting their way (guilt trip about how bro would like to see them more but won’t because they aren’t bending to them).
    7. Because I’m not married they get to choose shit.

    I predicted that they’d try and guilt the p’s into changing shit just for them and blame me. Don’t really know why I’m caught up in this.

    Highly manipulative shit.

    But why he sent that to the ol’ girl is fucked. In early Jan she’s about to find out if she’s going to be totally blind. We’re all stressing about that and there’s bro pulling shit like this. She’s stressed enough.

    I swear SIL is pulling the strings.

    I will not make them feel welcome next time I see them.

    Thank you for listening :)

    • Catfish@aussie.zone
      11·
      29 days ago

      This mega pisses me off. In the vast majority of cases being knocked up isn’t a great drama. Much sympathy.

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
      8·
      29 days ago

      omg, that’s so shameful

      and so many hugs and best wishes for your mum , that’s just so sad

      • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
        3·
        29 days ago

        best wishes for your mum

        Thank you it means a lot. It’s been so rough on her last thing she needs is this crap.

    • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
      7·
      29 days ago

      This is my take on this: Bro and wife have had heated words. She’s thrown out a “your family treats us like shit and you don’t stick up for me. Blah blah blah”. He’s left the room to write an angry email.

      Ignore it. You’ve got more important things to deal with.

      • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
        5·
        29 days ago

        I think you’re right. Either that or she’s "I’m going to get my way and you’re not making it happen be a MAN’. Actually tempted to ask her point blank what role she’s played in writing those emails. Bro was sending similar entitled shit when they were getting married lol.

    • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
      6·
      29 days ago

      I don’t get why having or not having children is such a clout thing. And being empreggened means they get to be in charge or they have a tantrum? Sounds really entitled.

      Is there a word like bridezilla but for this situation and both of them?

      • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
        5·
        29 days ago

        get to be in charge or they have a tantrum?

        I think it’s that but it was happening before expecting. Now it’s next level entitled heh.

      • Catfish@aussie.zone
        4·
        29 days ago

        Mom/Dadzilla can be used after hatching. Breeder applies before and aft to a certain type of person who doesn’t bother to Parent and just spawns.

        • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
          4·
          29 days ago

          It’s so weird how they think it makes them more important or higher in the pecking order.

          I’d argue Bottom_racer contributes more to the family with the caregiving and should be more accommodated

          As for them being ‘why they don’t visit’ that sounds blatantly manipulative

    • Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone
      3·
      29 days ago

      WTF: 4. AND 5.

      I just have too many bad words… In more than one language, LOL.

      Methinks it’s a shame there wasn’t several different instances of 3.

      HNY! 🎉 To less FWs in 2025.

  • MeanElevator@aussie.zoneEnglish
    15·
    29 days ago

    Have a great NYE everyone. Thanks for the fun times on this site, and putting up with my bullshit.

    And if anyone is wondering, my neighbour is watering the lawn FOR THE SECOND FUCKING TIME TODAY!!!

    Bless you all and hail Satan :)

  • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
    14·
    29 days ago

    Woo Hoo, I am finally splinter free!

    I think once the anasthetic wears off it is going to really hurt - the splinter turned out to be over 1cm long and as thick as a matchstick. No wonder it would not come out! I’ve got another box of antibiotics and an extra dressing, hopefully that will be the last of it.

  • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
    13·
    29 days ago

    It’s been a hell of a year! I want to take a moment to say thank you to everyone here for all the support.

    This was a difficult year, and quite honestly, I don’t think I would have made it without you all ❤️❤️❤️

    Happy new year!!!

    • Duenan@aussie.zone
      7·
      29 days ago

      Happy new year to you too!

      Nearly didn’t make it myself because of the shot time I had at work in the last couple of months.

      Here’s to a new year and new beginning.

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
      5·
      29 days ago

      Happy New Year to the Fluffybutt fam. luv you all 😘

      yeah , bad year too, spent far too many months in bed with sciatica

      but I did do all that sewing and reupholstering

      read a few books

      and continued learning and growing

      I don’t think I could have made it without mr seagoon 😭

  • Catfish@aussie.zone
    12·
    29 days ago

    Well, Happy NYE, have a palliative care admission. I don’t need pats, it’s been coming for ages, but sheesh.

  • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
    11·
    30 days ago

    We got us some franklin’s no frills fireworks going off near my house. More sad than anything lol

    This whole fucking suburb is the epitome of franklin’s no frills.

        • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
          2·
          29 days ago

          Fuck yeah. I remember when the Airport West one closed down. Everything 50% off. Me and the man had a trolley full of razors, moisturisers and munchies. All the expensive shit. One of the best days ever.

          • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
            2·
            29 days ago

            It was our main shop growing up lol

            I swear Barkly square is so ritzy compared to how it used to be. So weird to see it full of people haha

              • BlueSquid0741@lemmy.sdf.org
                5·
                30 days ago

                Probably not. But it’s not a literal “These fireworks are from Franklins” it’s just the implication. Franklins was a budget shopping centre in comparison to Woolies or Coles.

                Where those guys would sell the name brand stuff, the draw of going to Franklins was for cheaper no-name brand (Franklins brand!)

                Like Black & Gold or Savings. You knew you were eating the knock-off Tim Tams.

                • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
                  3·
                  30 days ago

                  I know! Fireworks definitely weren’t sold there. That was simply shorthand for ‘bargain bin crap’.

                  I just do remember the packaging of the No Frills brand food but not what it tasted like. If it was bad

              • Catfish@aussie.zone
                3·
                29 days ago

                No, it wasn’t in most cases, nor was Jewel if you recall that. Our family would go to Jewel first for cheap stuff like canned toms and beans, then to other places for stuff the difference was apparent in.

                Jewel catfood is possibly the origin of my aversion to most fish

                • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
                  7·
                  29 days ago

                  I think most of the aversion was just stigma - shopping at the cheap stores meant you were poor. The products were pretty much the same as any home brand product.

                  Jewel and Franklins were basically Aldi, except Aldi has copied the look of more expensive packaging and somehow convinced everyone that shopping at the cheap store is something to be proud of rather than being shameful. A combination of clever marketing and societal change.

            • Baku@aussie.zoneOPEnglish
              1·
              29 days ago

              Aren’t the vast majority of fireworks used here dodgy no name branded stuff? We don’t really have a particularly flourishing fireworks market, considering they’re heavily regulated compared to other parts of the world. Except the NT I guess, they probably have a better market since fireworks are legal to set off on territory day

  • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
    11·
    29 days ago

    Yesterday the man and I had a bet on the cricket. If Australia got up, he has to make me a cuppa in the mornings for the rest of his holidays. Fuck yeah. Who’s laughing all the way to the couch now? Me.

    • boonhet@lemm.ee
      7·
      29 days ago

      Just casually browsing here from the Northern hemisphere, I’ve never been to Australia. Enjoy the warm summer weather, I just had to deal with frozen car windows.

      To the point: What the hell is a goon bag and where do I get one? A pina colada goon bag sounds absolutely delicious.

      • Catfish@aussie.zone
        6·
        29 days ago

        Goon bag = box wine. An inflatable foil sack that makes a handy pillow if you drink the whole thing and retain enough dexterity to blow it up. 😺

      • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
        5·
        29 days ago

        A goon bag is box wine, generally speaking, very cheap and easy. So you get a box of wine, and in the box is a bag of the wine itself. A goon bag is that bag of wine. A pina colada goon bag, is the same but instead of wine, it’s a premixed pina colada 😂 I buy it from Aldi when they have them, they also have a Mojito one I want to try.

        During house parties, the goon bag gets pegged to the washing line (usually a hills hoist), and everyone can get some from there 😂 it’s very Aussie to have a goon bag pegged to the hills hoist for house parties, or at least it was when I was a teen in the 2000s.

        • boonhet@lemm.ee
          7·
          29 days ago

          Damn, you guys have invented a whole new way of drinking out there with the washing line and pegs lol

          I haven’t noticed boxed premix cocktails here, just wine mostly, would love to start my own business making them, buuuuuuuut I imagine there’s a whole crapload of legislation around producing and selling alcoholic drinks that would make this prohibitively expensive to get started.

          • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
            3·
            29 days ago

            Not every place has them here, so I get them from Aldi when they have them, because Aldi is awesome for getting munted on a budget lol. Cheap wine, cheap German beer, cheap goon. Bless Aldi.

            If you could get around the legislation, I reckon you’d be in for real nice profits!

            I know there’s a bar near me that has espresso martinis on tap, which is mint af

              • boonhet@lemm.ee
                3·
                29 days ago

                It is very much a local word I hadn’t heard of before, but context was most certainly enough. My own native language does not have such nice words for getting shitfaced/munted/pissed/wasted/etc, our euphemisms roughly just come down to drinking yourself into a casket (it’s said “into a box”, but everyone understands it’s supposed to mean casket) or just getting blackout drunk so you don’t remember shit. Our language has some 14 noun cases, so it just instead of the cumbersome “into a/an/the X” of English, we’d say X-i or X-sse. So if “box” is “kast”, we say “kasti” and if a slang term for a memory blackout is “mällar” or “mälus” (literally: in memory), we say “mällarisse” or “mällu” (literally: “into memory”)

                • Catfish@aussie.zone
                  1·
                  29 days ago

                  Your use of x makes me think you are talking about a language that uses clicks?! I have a favourite book with a character with an !X name

            • boonhet@lemm.ee
              1·
              29 days ago

              It’s funny, Aldi is from the same continent as me, but you guys get to have it in Australia, whereas I have to cross two borders to get to a country that does. To be fair, that drive is about the same as Sydney to Melbourne, we have fairly small countries here in the Baltics.

              I know there’s a bar near me that has espresso martinis on tap, which is mint af

              I have more questions now. What even goes in an Espresso Martini? Is it a cocktail or a coffee drink? Where the hell do I get one?

        • Catfish@aussie.zone
          4·
          29 days ago

          Expansion. A variety of unlabled goon bags pegged on the clothes hoist. By whatever means of choice it is spun and you drink from what stops in front of you. “Wheel of Goon”

          I have never seen this in reality.

            • TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zoneEnglish
              4·
              29 days ago

              Regretfully I must admit that so have I. Many many years ago. The empty goon bag can be re-inflated and used for drunken games of cricket with brooms/mops for a bat. If the goonbag hits the hot bbq/campfire and melts, that’s an automatic six & out. So then you have to empty the next bag to continue the game …

        • underwatermagpies@aussie.zone
          3·
          29 days ago

          Aldi mojito goon is pretty great, they had it just recently. I haven’t tried their pina colada but I would be keen, I’ll keep an eye out for it!

      • indisin@aussie.zone
        4·
        29 days ago

        As someone who grew up in the northern hemisphere, it’s weird it being so hot this time of year even after a decade of living here I can’t get used to it. So enjoy your frozen windows!

    • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
      3·
      29 days ago

      Put it in the sink full of water with the nozzle facing down. Once the water gets freezing re do it. Repeat if necessary.

    • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
      2·
      29 days ago

      Make a punch bowl. Use goon bag to cool punch bowl until it is drunken and goon is thawed. Pour goon out into bowl and drink some more

  • SpinMeAround@aussie.zone
    10·
    29 days ago

    Hello from Melbourne Airport! Hope you all have a lovely and safe last evening of the calendar year, no matter if you do or don’t celebrate! Lots of love and warmth!

  • SituationCake@aussie.zone
    10·
    29 days ago

    I feel some point in February I blinked and when I opened my eyes it was New Year’s Eve. Where did the year go, I swear it’s faster every year. There’s been some ups and downs, and lots of things same as ever that wish I had managed to change, but it was not to be, such is life. Anyway, cheers DT. Hope you are enjoying the night whether it’s staying in or going out, whether you are partying hard or in quiet contemplation. May 2025 be a year of good things ahead.