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Cake day: July 29th, 2024

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  • Been there. No fun. I haaate having hair falling in my face or into my ears or bunching up at the back of my neck. Also have wavy hair that’s a pain to control. I found in Kmart a circular hair control device - its a circle of zigzag plastic an inch or so wide and a bit stretchy, big enough to go around one’s whole head. I think its intended to hold back one’s hair with an Alice band over the top of it. Put it on around the neck, then slide it up and it holds hair back from the forehead and up off the neck. Front of hair is held sleek and smooth, then the rest of one’s hair runs riot behind it. Fairly comfy to wear, and you can put a bike helmet or hat over it if need be. Game changer for growing out hair past the annoying stage. And you can cover it with a ribbon or similar if you don’t like the look of it.

    the priceline version



  • Lots of youtube stuff - I recommend Ozgeology for a local slant on this stuff. Melbourne based too. At least until he ‘discovered’ a river of gold underneath Melbourne. But seriously, this channel fits with everything I’ve learned so far about this town and continent.

    All this stuff used to be called geography - but they don’t teach that anymore as it was considered boring and irrelevant back in the 1990s. I have NEVER agreed with that verdict. Where we are on this planet and how everything works is something I been fascinated by since early youf. It’s basic to understanding where we are and what is likely to happen in the future.





  • Feels. You got this, for the moment. Look after yourself too.

    personal experience

    Hate to say this, but I think it’s time you and your Dad got together and worked out a strategy for further cognitive decline management. You just can’t give up work to do the basic care stuff - that’s a non-continuing proposition even though it works well to look at in the short term. I’m talking trigger points for when more care is needed, and strategies to cope. And what happens if your Dad or you gets sick etc. Really really need to be on the same page. Yes this will be embarrassing to discuss. And some of the options will sound pretty cold and clinical but need to be considered. There’s professional help available for counselling/discussing this sort of thing, and using that might help your Dad and rest of fam take this seriously enough to be useful. Hospitals/doctors/clinics have contact info - and you may need an official letter from your mum’s doctor to access it.

    I found myself doing what I thought would be short term care for my mum, and found out that the rest of my family thought I was doing it all so they didn’t have to, and this went on for months and months. This got old very very fast and I had to really put my foot down to come up with a more equitable arrangement. Some family members still haven’t forgiven me. One sibling’s spouse is still snarked that she was asked to participate (minimally) and that was more than 10 years ago. Eventually Mum had to go into full time residential care and she HATED it. But there was no other viable option that permitted the rest of the family to have some kind of a life.

    End of life can be very distressing to all when its long drawn out and there’s no possibility of major improvement and a return to full independence. Just saying.






  • EOFY grizzles.

    spoiler

    If I hear one, just ONE, more client saying “I meant to send you this last week, but I forgot. Can I have the documents by 3pm cos I need them for settlement with the bank.” I will DO SOMETHING I WILL REGRET LATER. Am now officially entering hermit mode until I can face the (allegedly) human race again.

    PS I think there’s something in the water in Sydney that causes accountants to blow a gasket if you need more than 15 minutes (total) to:

    1. Reinstate a defunct company that ASIC deleted for non-payment of annual fees. (This usually takes 3 months).

    2. Change that company’s name

    3. Deregister another company

    4. Change the trustee company for 3 interrelated trusts with all the benefit going to 3 separate super funds

    5. Issue super fund updates (new deeds) for the 3 funds in 4) above. and

    6. they want a volume discount.

    THEY. CAN. GET. IN. THE. BIN.

    EDIT: On the up side, I had the great privilege of addressing a parcel to a gentleman named Huw Janos. I bet he has to spell his name out a lot. And had a terrible time in primary school. Some parents should be shot before they have a chance to produce offspring let alone name them.