I’m a girl with ADHD, depression, and anger issues. I like to consider myself pretty fashionable and good at sports, but my only friends are weirdos?
This one girl I’m friends with has a really bad stutter and autism, for example, and I think it’s weird. She also doesn’t like sports like I do.
I don’t like that they’re bad at sports. I’m better than them, and I don’t even play sports. My friends always pass the ball to the next person open, which happens to be their friend, so I think they’re targeting me.
They hardly ever pass the ball to me when I can shoot some awesome hoops!
If it wasn’t for the last line, I’d have sworn you were Stuart Hogg with a secret Lemmy account.
In all seriousness though, when you talk during the game or afterwards, what is the outcome when you ask why they overlook you as a recipient for a pass?
To address your initial friendship issue, maybe it’s time to join a sports team that allows you to develop even more and exposes you to more friendship opportunities?
I’ll try to join a more advanced team, thanks!
I remember one time someone stole the ball from my friend so I called my friend helpless and useless. No one really helped my teammate with the ball and it was easy for people to steal from each other, especially when no one was trying to get the ball back. But I certainly wasn’t going to help stupid people.
Could this be the reason why you don’t have many friends? You think they’re stupid/useless? That’s usually not how friends treat each other. Is this common in the States/English speaking countries or something as “banter”?
Edit: Banter seems like an excuse in this context, and OP seems genuine/serious, not joking around. I HAVE heard banter such as “You absolute dumbass” in a playful way but it was never repetitive or harmful.
They say it’s because I’m usually not open (I tend to hide behind the other players and not be open but it still pisses me off). They also say I’m a bad sport for calling them useless pieces of crap all the time, and I even got kicked off the team for a while because I told the truth?
Being honest, I will always think other people are terrible, and it makes me mad, but there’s nothing I can do. I guess I’ll just stay that way.
If you tend to hide, not be available to receive a pass, and not help in a team sport, then you need to reevaluate your level of ability.
I’m very good at sports when I can be. Usually when I “hide”, it’s because these tall women are blocking me. (I’m 5’7 but they are 5’9, even 5’11) I can shoot some awesome hoops, I just refuse to help useless people who aren’t as good as me when I actually care about the game. In this case, people are tools made to complete the goal of a game. If the tools are broken, why use them?
It’s a team sport. You’re not a team player. Don’t stand there like a lump, “hiding”. Create pressure, opportunity, and space for your teammates. The goal of the game is not for you to score. The goal of the game is for your team to score.
You sound like a broken tool.
If my team were better at strategy, I’d be less mad
Then help. If you see the problem, help provide the fix. Enthusiasm, energy, and skill raises everyone’s game. Whining just compounds the issue.
I’m pretty enthusiastic and energetic, or all of those really, I make easy wins, and I like to say “Oh yeah! I won!!” and point to myself.
This is some jerky ass behavior here, and I wouldn’t want to be friends with the person calling me useless either.
I view people as more tools than anything, and I’m working on being nicer. I say this with 100% honesty, not because I’m being mean. I still feel like I deserve friends, though. This one girl joins right in with me because I do, even though she’s nice when I’m not with her. Am I perhaps a bad influence on her?
I know it’s jerky, as people say it is, but I don’t really feel that bad (IDK why). I can’t help it, it just slips out. When I see someone being useless, I call them out for it. I will always be better than my friends, and I can’t help but get impatient with them, sadly. It’s my nature and the way I was raised. (My parents think they’re better than most people too, especially my Mother).
As someone who loved basketball, I get how this can be frustrating.
All I can offer is that they might find different aspects of the sport fun than you do: for them it might be more about feeding the ball to their friend to reinforce trust and solidarity with them.
😂 young weirdos are adorable. Steal the ball during the pass and say ‘nice pass’!