I’m a girl with ADHD, depression, and anger issues. I like to consider myself pretty fashionable and good at sports, but my only friends are weirdos?
This one girl I’m friends with has a really bad stutter and autism, for example, and I think it’s weird. She also doesn’t like sports like I do.
They say it’s because I’m usually not open (I tend to hide behind the other players and not be open but it still pisses me off). They also say I’m a bad sport for calling them useless pieces of crap all the time, and I even got kicked off the team for a while because I told the truth?
Being honest, I will always think other people are terrible, and it makes me mad, but there’s nothing I can do. I guess I’ll just stay that way.
If you tend to hide, not be available to receive a pass, and not help in a team sport, then you need to reevaluate your level of ability.
I’m very good at sports when I can be. Usually when I “hide”, it’s because these tall women are blocking me. (I’m 5’7 but they are 5’9, even 5’11) I can shoot some awesome hoops, I just refuse to help useless people who aren’t as good as me when I actually care about the game. In this case, people are tools made to complete the goal of a game. If the tools are broken, why use them?
It’s a team sport. You’re not a team player. Don’t stand there like a lump, “hiding”. Create pressure, opportunity, and space for your teammates. The goal of the game is not for you to score. The goal of the game is for your team to score.
You sound like a broken tool.
If my team were better at strategy, I’d be less mad
Then help. If you see the problem, help provide the fix. Enthusiasm, energy, and skill raises everyone’s game. Whining just compounds the issue.
I’m pretty enthusiastic and energetic, or all of those really, I make easy wins, and I like to say “Oh yeah! I won!!” and point to myself.
This is some jerky ass behavior here, and I wouldn’t want to be friends with the person calling me useless either.
I view people as more tools than anything, and I’m working on being nicer. I say this with 100% honesty, not because I’m being mean. I still feel like I deserve friends, though. This one girl joins right in with me because I do, even though she’s nice when I’m not with her. Am I perhaps a bad influence on her?
I know it’s jerky, as people say it is, but I don’t really feel that bad (IDK why). I can’t help it, it just slips out. When I see someone being useless, I call them out for it. I will always be better than my friends, and I can’t help but get impatient with them, sadly. It’s my nature and the way I was raised. (My parents think they’re better than most people too, especially my Mother).