Never had it, probably never will. So I’m curious.

(If the question isn’t allowed, which I don’t think is, for some reason I’ll delete the post)

Thank you.

  • Tiefling IRL
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    8 hours ago

    It really depends on the person. I’ve been with my partner (w4w) for 4 years but sex is not a core part of our relationship. She’s demi and I’m ace due to ADHD and alexithymia. Each time we’ve tried, it was ultimately boring and unsatisfying.

    • @Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      Ah, I’m sorry to hear that. My partner and are are both ace-adjacent and have reactive libidos. So we really have to schedule days and one of us usually ends up vetoing (to no hard feelings from either of us!)

      When we DO finally get going, it’s an absolute mess of hedonistic disgusting writing babbling screaming goodness. We have a thousand or two USD worth of toys we bust out and just destroy ourselves and each other. I’m surprised we both don’t want to do stuff more, but it’s just a lot of work, physically and mentally. Then my body is usually completely fucked for the next bunch of days.