No, but seriously, I’d love to have someone growing inside me. That’s my ultimate wish. I REALLY want to be pregnant :(

Anyone else?

  • Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.worldEnglish
    20·
    9 days ago

    I get that. But, in my case i already have enough children. If its any consolation, apart from the 2nd trimester it’s supposed to be absolutely miserable. The first trimester is vomiting your guts out whenever you smell or taste anything that isn’t clean air or water. Second trimester is all sunshine and rainbows. Third is hip dysplasia, sacral nerve pain and mobility issues.

      • Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.worldEnglish
        8·
        9 days ago

        And then of course there’s the actual main event. Not exactly a risk free endeavour even today. During one of the births, my partner started soaking the bedsheets in blood when the anaesthetist nicked her spinal artery with the epidural needle. She said it felt like her lower half had been crushed under a falling building. She was not right after that. Also all of them were over 4.3kg(9.5lbs). I’m really thankful I didn’t have to do that

        • birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          6·
          9 days ago

          Oof! >4.3 kg ? That’s rough, your partner’s strong. Does the extra weight make birth harder, or is it mainly with carrying, or both?

          I don’t know why but despite all the pain and those descriptions, this makes me want to experience it only the more.

          • Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.worldEnglish
            4·
            9 days ago

            Probably both? But it takes a toll every time the most recent one was just over 4.8 kg and she gave birth to him vaginally in her early 40’s with only a small superficial tear. Not sure how she pulled it off but I was very impressed. When I told my colleagues how much he weighed all the men congratulated me and looked excited and all the women visibly winced and asked if she was ok.

            • birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
              3·
              9 days ago

              Late but idk if i was clear; with regard to carrying i meant during pregnancy, not after birth. Like, that’s probably gonna be extra back ache, feeling heavy, idk.

              That said, lol yeah, I can see that different reaction. One group doesn’t know how painful it is because they don’t really experience it themselves (though they can sympathise), the other does.

      • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        5·
        9 days ago

        and the experiences vary, I know of people who have had awful pregnancies where they felt sick the entire time, but I also know people who had wonderful pregnancies where they were hardly sick and the positive experiences of being pregnant outweighed the negatives - though I do hear more negative stories than positive, tbh