I forget medical info all the time. When was my last dentist visit? I dunno. Which kid had their tonsils out? What’s my blood type?
Wife asks “remember when I had strep last year?” No…
Has anyone in my house had COVID? I think so, but which one(s)?
I forget vacations we took, what states I’ve been to.
Terrible at remembering people that I’ve met even a bunch of times.
Horrible at work. I’m on top of what’s happening now, mostly, because I have notes, but what happened a year ago? Gosh.
It’s really frustrating living like this, but I don’t know how much might be my ADHD and how much is just me having a bad brain.
I sometimes have difficulty remembering people’s names. Even people I have known for years.
It’s really frustrating when you suddenly see someone you know very well and can’t more than a “Hey! …you” out only for their name to immediately pop into your head about 30 seconds after the conversation is over and you’re walking away.
I feel so bad, because people know MY name and I can’t reciprocate. Is it because I’m a bad, self-centered person? A medical issue? Something else?
Gives me anxiety, bud.
ADHD is a brain/neurological disorder that has a wide range of symptoms, including memory issues. I can’t tell you exactly why we have trouble remembering names but I am 100% certain that it’s not because you’re a bad or self-centered person.
You’ve gotta give yourself a little grace. Living with with ADHD is hard and you can’t just power through it, any more than someone missing a leg can run marathons.
What does it matter if I give myself some grace if society does expect me to run that marathon though?
Ah, but you see, even if you are correct (probably are), there’s still the chance that I’m ALSO a bad person! Checkmate.
I should probably see a therapist.
I always, always, always open with “I am VERY bad with names so please forgive me if I have to ask again next time. … no, yes, I get that you think you’re bad with names too, but you don’t understand.” Okay, admittedly, I only think that second part.
I do that too, but I still feel terrible because I can’t remember if this is one of the people to whom I said that!
Yeah. I can’t remember names worth a crap even if I try. Their voice, their face and their car i can remember no problem.
I get this too. But I lean heavily into my Australianess to cover by calling everyone mate.