Now that we have determined in this thread that a friendly/flirty conversation is indeed not harassment, women are just people too, the old gender roles are dead and public parks are a singles hunting ground, how do I make it clear I’m open to being approached?

Since chatting someone up is out of the question for me, I’d rather hedge my bets on some women using those tricks all you Casanovas left in that thread on me. We’re all progressive here, I don’t see why the man must start this dance.

But I can’t help but notice that this plan has not worked at all yet. How do I express I’m single and ready to mingle, except by just having that printed on my shirt? Like was said, having just a friendly conversation with any gender would be a start, can’t remember those happening in a while either.

  • ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world
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    4 hours ago

    If you’re a dude and you wanna be approached by regular women and not gold-diggers, you kinda have to be cute. If you’re not too handsome you will have to go outside and wait a lot, I guess, even more so if you don’t give off “approachable vibes”. Or you could do what most men have done since time immemorial: learn a bit about people and what makes them smile and go do that regardless of your fears.

    And what is this nonsense about being progressive and “gender roles”. Women are scared kittens and the mere possibility of rejection, public or not, wrecks most of their psyches. And men are hornier (else the prostitution market would look very different, lol), so they know they’ll be approached eventually, at least in their younger years. You’re not battling ideology, you’re battling economy! You will have to make a move, unless you’re handsome enough that a woman makes a cost-benefit analysis and finds the risk of EMOTIONAL DAMAGE worth the prize. You might be! If so, well, go outside. If not, you’re gonna have to be brave and do the unthinkable: talk to women and risk ridicule. Most women are nice, sweet and non-confrontational, at least IME, and if you know the least about women you can tell the bad apples apart easily, so give it a go.