• Psythik@lemm.ee
    6·
    16 hours ago

    Does anyone else find it weird that it’s not completely uncommon for pre-pubescent girls to fantasize about their wedding? Why are they thinking about marrying someone when they’re not even old enough to be attracted to people yet? Is there a biological reason for this?

    • groet@feddit.org
      6·
      8 hours ago

      The “biological reason” is “societal preconditioning”. Its Disney movies, toys marketed towards small girls, television, social media…

      Despite many advancements in equality, marrying a rich man is still seen (and marketed) as a live goal for women.

      Also, wedding and princess are pretty mutch the same thing for a girl. Pretty dress, center of attention, presents, etc. Its not about “getting married”.

    • lenz@lemmy.ml
      4·
      8 hours ago

      There is no biological reason because weddings are a social construct we made up in the first place. Not every human society even has weddings/marriage as a concept. It’s just purely societal conditioning that teaches little girls that marriage and having kids is the only future they can expect. I was never interested in marriage as a young child (duh), but my mother always talked as if that future was inevitable for me. It’s hard not to think about something everyone treats like fate.

    • Horse {they/them}@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
      5·
      8 hours ago

      Is there a biological reason for this?

      nope, entirely cultural
      if toy guns and gi joes were marketed toward little girls we would have a bunch of them fantasizing about being soldiers

    • ...m...@ttrpg.network
      1·
      8 hours ago

      …i think the social conditioning to marry prince charming was profound; kind of like religion, we all want to believe in someone to sweep off our feet and make our dreams come true…

      …i don’t have my finger on the pulse of generation alpha but for awhile i hoped generation Z might leave that baggage behind them…

  • TTH4P@lemm.ee
    60·
    1 day ago

    I used to wet toilet paper and tissues and place them over the faces on my dolls, and then they would dry and harden and I could make masks. My mother expressed that this is not how we should play with dolls.

  • twice_hatch@midwest.socialEnglish
    13·
    1 day ago

    I made scrambled eggs out of sticks and leaves, and I used the camcorder to make stop-motion videos of my toy cars

  • reallykindasorta@slrpnk.net
    14·
    1 day ago

    Can relate but I made potions in the bath. With various colors of shampoo. In actual glass test tubes and such from the science supply store (probably not wise @my parents but all the little glass bottles were adorable).

    • phlegmy@sh.itjust.works
      8·
      20 hours ago

      Holy shit you just reminded me of my childhood.
      I remember mixing all the things I could find in the bathroom because I thought it would make your hair grow faster and might be the secret to immortality, because none of the scientists would have considered mixing dove and palmolive together.

      • reallykindasorta@slrpnk.net
        3·
        18 hours ago

        Completely plausible! Have you aged since? Or stopped aging at 27?

        Edit: If not maybe you needed to add a few drops of purple eyeglass-cleaner sample.

        • phlegmy@sh.itjust.works
          3·
          17 hours ago

          I have aged since but I’m not quite 27 yet, so maybe it worked?
          I’ll try adding that eyeglass cleaner and let you know how it’s going when I’m 40.

  • Dr_Box@lemmy.world
    26·
    1 day ago

    I got a 2 liter pepsi bottle and filled it with a bunch of crazy shit to try and make a potion. Things like toothpaste and ketchup and a bunch of other horrible stuff. Seeing it coagulate inside like some sort of homunculus made me think I was really onto something

    • some_random_nick@lemmy.world
      5·
      1 day ago

      I tried something similar, but I was using small drops of parfume, some grass I plucked outside, other random organic stuff and a pot. The pot was on a lit stove. You can imagine how delightfully it must have smelled…

  • atomicorange@lemmy.world
    10·
    1 day ago

    I never pretended to be a bride. I didn’t see many weddings as a kid, so probably not a lot of reason to latch onto that. Plus, pretending to be a princess is much better! Fancy dress, but more color options and you also get to boss people around. Also, no lame boys needed.

    • twice_hatch@midwest.socialEnglish
      9·
      1 day ago

      To this day I’ve only attended one wedding and one funeral, I’m more sheltered than most real princesses 👸

    • volvoxvsmarla @lemm.ee
      8·
      1 day ago

      I never played princess. I always wanted to play queen. Married, mature and with power, sounded like a much better deal.

  • Mothra@mander.xyz
    19·
    1 day ago

    No, I don’t remember a single instance of play pretending to be a bride. I do remember several of play pretending to be a Dad though. For the record - I’m still a straight woman, always been. I don’t know what lady in pink is going on about.

  • Una@europe.pub
    19·
    1 day ago

    I always had strange feeling like I’m pregnant (can’t explain exactly that feeling) but I had feeling, and kinda wished I could experience actually being pregnant. Well turns out I was not really a man, I was trans girl. I was never fat, but I did had little bigger stomach and would get weird and kinda happy feeling of it actually being me pregnant. I never had sex, and I know, and knew back then how to become pregnant but still got that feeling

    Like I don’t plan on having children or marrying, at least not in traditional sense but I do wish I could experience pregnancy and be surrogate mother.