You’re not hitting on her. You were being helpful. Nowwww… If you continued and followed up multiple times, then yes. Harassment. But if you left it like this, you’re just a nice guy.
That’s the problem though. I was drunk at the time and can’t properly remember what I said fully. It is well within reason I was too insistent or said it weirdly, given that I have 0 social awareness
Oh well. Guess I’ll continue to let it be my thought demon for the next decade or so
Please try not to overthink it. This lady had every opportunity to walk away but enjoyed your company.
As long as you’re not grabby/feelie you’re good.
I’m a very social person that works in marketing. My job works directly with engineers with 0 social skills and we are close enough that they express the same type of concerns as you.
Again, don’t overthink it. Unless you’re a superior, your coworker can leave your presence at anytime b
One time we were having drinks at a local pub because a coworker was leaving the job and moving into the city for a different job/uni
I (fairly drunk) told her that, since I’m in the city a fair bit because of uni, I’d be happy to help her if she needed anything
Fast forward to the next morning and I’m waking up realising that it probably looked like I was hitting on her, when I just wanted to be helpful
So yeah it’s those moments that make me not want to make the first step (even if the intention was different)
You’re not hitting on her. You were being helpful. Nowwww… If you continued and followed up multiple times, then yes. Harassment. But if you left it like this, you’re just a nice guy.
That’s the problem though. I was drunk at the time and can’t properly remember what I said fully. It is well within reason I was too insistent or said it weirdly, given that I have 0 social awareness
Oh well. Guess I’ll continue to let it be my thought demon for the next decade or so
Please try not to overthink it. This lady had every opportunity to walk away but enjoyed your company.
As long as you’re not grabby/feelie you’re good.
I’m a very social person that works in marketing. My job works directly with engineers with 0 social skills and we are close enough that they express the same type of concerns as you.
Again, don’t overthink it. Unless you’re a superior, your coworker can leave your presence at anytime b
You were drunk and might’ve just been repeating yourself in general