• Refurbished Refurbisher@lemmy.sdf.org
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    Nobody (including you) should put other peoples’ feeling above your own, as that is an extremely unhealthy thing to do. Being considerate of someone’s feelings and sacrificing your own feelings for someone else are two very different things.

    The people I talk to don’t mind the way I talk, and that is how I judge my language. I also make sure that I give them the environment necessary to express their discomfort with my language if they have any.

    Do you have any non-gendered alternatives to “dude” and “bro?”

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      Nobody (including you) should put other peoples’ feeling above your own

      I kinda see where you’re coming from, but I wholeheartedly disagree.

      You should never put your needs below anyone else’s, but I’d argue that it’s very healthy to mildly inconvenience yourself in order to avoid majorly inconveniencing or hurting others. In fact I’d say that’s kind of the entire cornersone of human civilization.

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        Yes, and every time someone is bothered by my language, I change my language specifically for them, like how I call my transfem friends by their name instead of saying “dude”, etc.