@MuscularGoddess that’s very insightful on two counts. First a dominant knows what it is to serve and knows the expectations they set, and therefore the expectations that others will require of them. I think that makes them attentive and obedient potential subs. Second, of course you have a gravitational pull and could exercise charm, force, or the provision of pleasure or it’s denial to ensure that your former Dom becomes an eager little pup for you
@MuscularGoddess with the exception of your potential quirks and specific preferences: how you like to punish, what deserves a reward, how you require to be worshipped, when is pleasure earned and similarly when is frustration and denied arousal more amusing and fulfilling
One thing to keep in mind is that there is a large population of “Doms” that have not taken the time to examine that their tendencies are a manifestation of implanted societal gender roles. When the script is flipped and you’re handily placed in a subs position, where you were always told it is wrong and perverse to be, it can be quite alluring to be disillusioned.
@Biapathy totally agree with you, although personally I do not confirm or believe in any societal norms with regard to gender. There is though an allure in having my usual sexual preferences flipped, and a power in choosing to give up the power that you would ordinarily expect to be free to exercise as an adult human
Whether you believe in gender norms or not, they are exist and are extraordinarily prevalent. I didn’t mean that as a jab or implication directed at you, just to be clear, but I run into the situation quite a lot. I’m switch with women but exclusively sub with men so maybe it’s a bit more obvious in the gay community where expectations are less clearly defined, but the number of messages I’ll have to screen which essentially amount to “I’m Dom because I’m doing the penetrating” are far too many. Finding neglect for the mental aspects of submission is a very quick way of weeding people out.
There is though an allure in having my usual sexual preferences flipped, and a power in choosing to give up the power that you would ordinarily expect to be free to exercise as an adult human
You know the feeling of when you take a vacation to someplace new and never want to leave. I imagine the new perspective feels quite a bit like that 😇
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@MuscularGoddess ngl, just reading that literally got me hard
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@MuscularGoddess oh really? Why is it that subs who were Doms as your favourite?
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@MuscularGoddess that’s very insightful on two counts. First a dominant knows what it is to serve and knows the expectations they set, and therefore the expectations that others will require of them. I think that makes them attentive and obedient potential subs. Second, of course you have a gravitational pull and could exercise charm, force, or the provision of pleasure or it’s denial to ensure that your former Dom becomes an eager little pup for you
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@MuscularGoddess with the exception of your potential quirks and specific preferences: how you like to punish, what deserves a reward, how you require to be worshipped, when is pleasure earned and similarly when is frustration and denied arousal more amusing and fulfilling
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One thing to keep in mind is that there is a large population of “Doms” that have not taken the time to examine that their tendencies are a manifestation of implanted societal gender roles. When the script is flipped and you’re handily placed in a subs position, where you were always told it is wrong and perverse to be, it can be quite alluring to be disillusioned.
@Biapathy totally agree with you, although personally I do not confirm or believe in any societal norms with regard to gender. There is though an allure in having my usual sexual preferences flipped, and a power in choosing to give up the power that you would ordinarily expect to be free to exercise as an adult human
Whether you believe in gender norms or not, they are exist and are extraordinarily prevalent. I didn’t mean that as a jab or implication directed at you, just to be clear, but I run into the situation quite a lot. I’m switch with women but exclusively sub with men so maybe it’s a bit more obvious in the gay community where expectations are less clearly defined, but the number of messages I’ll have to screen which essentially amount to “I’m Dom because I’m doing the penetrating” are far too many. Finding neglect for the mental aspects of submission is a very quick way of weeding people out.
You know the feeling of when you take a vacation to someplace new and never want to leave. I imagine the new perspective feels quite a bit like that 😇