AKA how are you surviving it?
Mom and her partner are going to a reunion with some neighbours, get drunk and whatever and invited me but i won’t go. I know how those parties are and I hate being surrounded by alcoholic ignorant people and people I don’t know… My little bro (16 yrs old) goes out with his friends. My other bro that is 5 years younger than me (he’s 29 years old) Will pass the NYE with her fiance and her family in their families restaurant.
So I’ll stay in my room alone again. There’s no reason to go outside. The stupid fireworks won’t let me sleep anyways so I’ll play Xbox and watch some p*rn maybe. I know it can be seen as pathetic for some, but that’s my reality and I can’t do anything about it.
Platypus, my brother in Christ, do you hear how you talk out of both sides of your mouth?
You’d be sad if you had to hang out with people, because you hate that, but you’d be sad if you are alone because you hate that.
It’s not your circumstances making you sad. It’s you. It’s your refusal to engage with your problems because you’d rather languish in your depression.
There’s nothing on earth that could fall into your lap that would make you happy. The world could bend to your will in every way, and you’d still be miserable because the thing making you miserable isn’t external.
You have the power to make 2025 better than 2024. It won’t be easy, and you’ll have to do a lot of things you don’t like doing. That’s life. That’s being an adult. Doing the hard things you don’t want to do to make life better for yourself and the people around you.
And you can do it. But you never will so long as you keep lying to yourself by saying there’s “nothing you can do about it.” There is. You just have to take the first step.
I thought you called him a platypus…need to check usernames more often.
Solid advice though.
Either way, I’m using “platypus” for emphasis from now on. There’s something satisfying about it.
I already do enough and hate it. I won’t do anything else. There’s no people for me. People are obnoxious, dumb and way older than me. And their interests and life style are NOT of my liking.
Your comment about people being obnoxious, dumb, and too old is, at the most charitable, hyper local. This is something that you can work towards changing. There are clear, easily defined steps that will work you to that goal.
It will be hard, but it’s clearly accomplishable if you put in the work.
You say you do enough, and I’m willing to give you the benefit of the doubt.
What hard things are you currently doing? And about how many hours a week does it represent?
I have a job that I hate. It drains me and I’m surrounded by noise and people I don’t care about. I only want to sleep when I’m back to my room and if I have more energy, trying to game. Tried to get my driving licence but I rather hang myself over returning to that bmw car and ass of instructor
Having a license and access to a vehicle could really help you find some freedom from your work/home experience. You’d be able to go where you want even if it’s just to be alone.
You sound really young, so let me give you some advice. You’re life, is what you make of it. Hate your job? Start learning to find a better one you actually like. Don’t like the bmw, sell it and get a car you like. Don’t like where you live focus on figuring out where you would like to live and work towards that. You could also use some therapy to help overcome your depression you have.
I’m not… Also the BMW is the instructor car, we don’t have a car, we’re poor. Dude I live with my family, We’re not moving anywhere we’re immigrants
Being an immigrant is an excuse, I’m from a family of immigrants, and a minority. You have the Internet, it’s filled with free tools for learning. You like PC games,? Learn to program and make your own, or go into IT. There is so much you can do to better your life, but no one is going to hand it to you. You have to do for yourself if you wish to improve.
Programs? Dude that’s not for me and I hate studying I barely made it through middle school
Okay, there’s a lot there to examine, but let’s go with the drivers license.
Why would you rather hang yourself than go back to that instructor? Just because they have a BMW? Because they annoyed you on a personal level?
It’s not like you’re going to marry them. They’re someone you’ll see for maybe a dozen hours in your entire life. After which, you’ll have a drivers license that has the potential to vastly improve your life.
Can you not withstand a dozen hours discomfort? That’s not that many in the grand scheme to achieve a goal you set for yourself.
No I can’t. and yes it’s stressful, terrible people
To be clear, you can. Being in their presence for half a day wouldn’t cause you to fall over dead. You aren’t incapable of doing it.
What you mean is that you won’t. You are refusing to do it. You aren’t incapable, you just really don’t want to.
And look, I get it. It’s easier to tell yourself that spending a few hours with someone you don’t like is literally impossible. That way, you can’t be faulted for not doing it. You wouldn’t be responsible for your own faults or failures if the things that would fix it were literally impossible. It’s a comforting lie.
But just because you want something to be true doesn’t make it so. You are, in fact, capable of spending a small handful of hours with someone you don’t like. Your world won’t end, and afterwards you can go back to sitting on your bed, playing vidya and jerking off. But you’ll go back to that one step closer to self improvement.
The question is, what choice are you going to make. And make no mistake, it is a choice. Your hand isn’t forced. And whichever way you go, that was your decision. Not something the world forced on you.
If everyone is the problem, YOU’RE the problem.
Get a grip, grow up, and take personal responsibility and accountability for your life. If you’re miserable while having freedom, it isn’t anyone but you causing that.
How wrong you are. That logic does not make sense in the slightest.
Oh the irony 🤦🏼♂️
Dude does not understand the concept of the common denominator.
Classic platypus answer. Didn’t expect anything more. Enjoy your miserable 2025.
Pathetic? That’s like an introvert’s wet dream right there.
It’s no longer a dream when it’s every year for like a decade. And in your 30s, and still sexless.
Honest truth, you aren’t going to have sex sitting in your room or with your sour attitude.
Sorry, friend. I was just trying to create a little subversion, but I know that doesn’t always help.
I do sympathize though. Being alone and lonely for so long DOES suck… Holiday’s are so superficial/commercial nowadays too and many of us just don’t have the motivation or energy to suffer through them.
I’m not really doing anything special either, if it makes you feel any better. I genuinely would rather be playing games and watch porn than the menial social get together I’m obliged to.
The alone part is for 2 decades already. The porn and gaming is 10 years
Dude, staying in on NYE is the best.
I’m going to have wine, read a book, and fall asleep with my pups next to me tonight. It’s going to be glorious, and no lightweight drunks or cops around to ruin it.
My wife texted our friends at 4 am to let everyone know we’re cancelling our new year’s party because she’s sick as shit. So my plan is to take care of her, watch the kids, and wait for the rest of us to inevitably start puking our guts out.
Damn, best wishes for your colon.
Thanks I’m doing fine so far but I feel like it’s a matter of time.
This has been an absolute dumpster fire of a year, so I’m trying something different and going to a trans bar in my city. I hate crowds and loud spaces, but I’m going to give it an honest try and can always leave early.
Get hammered and whip some handbrake J turns in the gravel parking lot at the church down the road from here until about 2am.
Same as every New Years eve.
Hell, same as every eve.
but that’s my reality and I~~ can’t~~ won’t do anything about it.
Fixed that for you.
Maybe think on what you’d like your life to look like and how you can get there, it’s never too late to start making a change!
If you don’t like the people around you, there are a million ways to meet new people with similar interests.
If you don’t like your job, instead of Xbox, maaturbation and complaining on Lemmy but pretending they’re really questions for everyone, maybe look at what skills you can develop or what other jobs you could apply to.
No one is responsible for your life but you. Sympathy is for those making an effort to improve their situation.
I didn’t asked for sympathy, I just said what I’m able to do. Why are you angry? I can’t learn anything, I’m old and dumb. My parents were stronger than me yet they still poor and uneducated, I’m fucked
Why are you angry?
Just pointing out this is a situation of your own making and is completely solvable.
That’s bullshit and you don’t know me or my life
I’ve seen your posts and comments, they’re all the same. “Everyone else is a dumb, I don’t like anything, I’m just going to jerk it in my room.”
Sadly, it’s not an uncommon personality.
If you want an NYE you don’t have to spend alone and sad, you can take steps to remedy it. If you choose not to, that’s on you.
You’ve been trolled. Just look at this guy’s post and comment history. He doesn’t want help, he wants to whine and waste everyone’s time.
Who cares the stupid thing is over anyways. Another shit year starts
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Researching and planning a trip abroad in preparation for moving out of this country.
In my sister’s home
Her baby is sick.
The day has been a cavalcade of interruptions atop interruptions as more and more shit keeps happening.
At midnight the sky will explode and the baby will screech like he is dying. (fuck fireworks and all people who make or use or enjoy them)
No partying for me, but I don’t like partying, so. Overall in a grumpy mood.
At least after this is done with I’m going to see my SO in his place.
I’m going to bed.
I’m hosting a party for trans people. 50 said they’ve come. I estimate we’ve got 35-40.
I’m going to take my mom and aunty out for dinner tonight since I finally got my paycheque. Then, we’re probably going to watch some Marvel movies.
Way too little sleep last night, but I’m managing. New years dinner is dine, and the guests have left. I’m just waiting for the clock to move enough, to the point where I can get my kids to grab supper so that it’s over with. Then once midnight hits, it’s fireworks, after which the kids will head straight to bed.
I don’t think your evening is pathetic. I’ve been in similar circumstances, and we do what we must to get by. I respect your pragmatic resilience, and your wisdom in your priorities; forcing yourself to be around drunken strangers because of feeling an obligation to celebrate with everyone else would be far more pathetic than your actual plans
That being said, it sounds like you’re not particularly happy with your life circumstances right now — it sounds like you’re surviving more than you’re living. On that note, I sincerely wish you the best for the coming year. Maybe you’ll never find this an occasion worth celebrating, but I hope you have splashes of happiness across the year, where you can enjoy the things you care about.
That same blind hope I expressed towards you is how I’m surviving tonight; it has been a pretty terrible year for me, and I’m trying not to reflect too hard on it all, nor think too hard about planning the future. I’m just grasping onto a desperate hope that maybe this time, next year, I’ll have more things to reflect on fondly.
Good luck in the year ahead, to anyone who is reading this. It never feels like it, but simply surviving is a hell of an achievement, and I’m cheering for you from the distance, because you deserve good things.
