AKA how are you surviving it?

Mom and her partner are going to a reunion with some neighbours, get drunk and whatever and invited me but i won’t go. I know how those parties are and I hate being surrounded by alcoholic ignorant people and people I don’t know… My little bro (16 yrs old) goes out with his friends. My other bro that is 5 years younger than me (he’s 29 years old) Will pass the NYE with her fiance and her family in their families restaurant.

So I’ll stay in my room alone again. There’s no reason to go outside. The stupid fireworks won’t let me sleep anyways so I’ll play Xbox and watch some p*rn maybe. I know it can be seen as pathetic for some, but that’s my reality and I can’t do anything about it.

  • @PlatypusOP
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    I already do enough and hate it. I won’t do anything else. There’s no people for me. People are obnoxious, dumb and way older than me. And their interests and life style are NOT of my liking.

    • @testfactor@lemmy.world
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      Your comment about people being obnoxious, dumb, and too old is, at the most charitable, hyper local. This is something that you can work towards changing. There are clear, easily defined steps that will work you to that goal.

      It will be hard, but it’s clearly accomplishable if you put in the work.

      You say you do enough, and I’m willing to give you the benefit of the doubt.

      What hard things are you currently doing? And about how many hours a week does it represent?

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        I have a job that I hate. It drains me and I’m surrounded by noise and people I don’t care about. I only want to sleep when I’m back to my room and if I have more energy, trying to game. Tried to get my driving licence but I rather hang myself over returning to that bmw car and ass of instructor

        • @Elaine@lemm.ee
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          Having a license and access to a vehicle could really help you find some freedom from your work/home experience. You’d be able to go where you want even if it’s just to be alone.

        • @SupraMario@lemmy.world
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          You sound really young, so let me give you some advice. You’re life, is what you make of it. Hate your job? Start learning to find a better one you actually like. Don’t like the bmw, sell it and get a car you like. Don’t like where you live focus on figuring out where you would like to live and work towards that. You could also use some therapy to help overcome your depression you have.

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            I’m not… Also the BMW is the instructor car, we don’t have a car, we’re poor. Dude I live with my family, We’re not moving anywhere we’re immigrants

            • @SupraMario@lemmy.world
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              Being an immigrant is an excuse, I’m from a family of immigrants, and a minority. You have the Internet, it’s filled with free tools for learning. You like PC games,? Learn to program and make your own, or go into IT. There is so much you can do to better your life, but no one is going to hand it to you. You have to do for yourself if you wish to improve.

              • @PlatypusOP
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                Programs? Dude that’s not for me and I hate studying I barely made it through middle school

        • @testfactor@lemmy.world
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          Okay, there’s a lot there to examine, but let’s go with the drivers license.

          Why would you rather hang yourself than go back to that instructor? Just because they have a BMW? Because they annoyed you on a personal level?

          It’s not like you’re going to marry them. They’re someone you’ll see for maybe a dozen hours in your entire life. After which, you’ll have a drivers license that has the potential to vastly improve your life.

          Can you not withstand a dozen hours discomfort? That’s not that many in the grand scheme to achieve a goal you set for yourself.

          • @PlatypusOP
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            No I can’t. and yes it’s stressful, terrible people

            • @testfactor@lemmy.world
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              To be clear, you can. Being in their presence for half a day wouldn’t cause you to fall over dead. You aren’t incapable of doing it.

              What you mean is that you won’t. You are refusing to do it. You aren’t incapable, you just really don’t want to.

              And look, I get it. It’s easier to tell yourself that spending a few hours with someone you don’t like is literally impossible. That way, you can’t be faulted for not doing it. You wouldn’t be responsible for your own faults or failures if the things that would fix it were literally impossible. It’s a comforting lie.

              But just because you want something to be true doesn’t make it so. You are, in fact, capable of spending a small handful of hours with someone you don’t like. Your world won’t end, and afterwards you can go back to sitting on your bed, playing vidya and jerking off. But you’ll go back to that one step closer to self improvement.

              The question is, what choice are you going to make. And make no mistake, it is a choice. Your hand isn’t forced. And whichever way you go, that was your decision. Not something the world forced on you.

    • @QuarterSwede@lemmy.world
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      If everyone is the problem, YOU’RE the problem.

      Get a grip, grow up, and take personal responsibility and accountability for your life. If you’re miserable while having freedom, it isn’t anyone but you causing that.