• @ThirdWorldOrder@lemm.ee
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    71 year ago

    I would say it takes effort to be polite. What takes no effort is being rude or dismissive.

    Maybe you’re just naturally a positive person though which the majority of people aren’t (at least not on Reddit/lemmy)

      • @chuckleslord@lemmy.world
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        21 year ago

        It’s a lowest common denominator strategy. If you respond in kindness, there’s an outsized chance you’ll be attacked in kind. So lots of people choose to attack first rather than be a victim of being attacked. It’s a strategy that only works if enough people choose it.

        That’s why I stuck to more niche communities on reddit, less chance that people engage like that. Or, even if they do, I can be genuinely kind back and they usually cool off.

        Or, from another perspective, you don’t know if the person you’re engaging with means you or your community harm but they said things that people who do mean you harm have said in the past. So, you make it immediately clear that you and your community aren’t easy targets. It’s still a lowest common denominator strategy, but one that centers the safety of others.

          • @chuckleslord@lemmy.world
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            01 year ago

            Yeah, I agree with you. But your strategy requires not allowing (or giving the appearance of not allowing) someone to get to you. If someone says something that pisses you off, you’re probably going to reply while pissed off. I’m not saying this is the optimal strategy, I’m saying it’s just what people do.

            I’m neurodivergent, so I usually don’t get wrapped up in conversations like that, but even I fall for it sometimes.