I mean, I’ll take what I can get (short term, long term). As I said I have never had any sort of relationship to speak of so I wouldn’t really know. But casual sex would be best for me as things are now.

Sorta, I don’t really care that much for the relationship part. I mean, if I like the girl and she wants to make it official I’ll play ball, ya know.

but it’s a place to start building a framework for understanding.

It sure is! Thank you, this is honestly very helpful and intuitive! They way I got confused by the last comment was because I was like: “But I’m already talking friendly with them, that’s like the one thing I’m good at.”

but then what is your actual challenge here?

I don’t know, that’s a good question. How to convey that to the other person, I guess?

Okay, clearly you’re at the end of your rope here. And I thank you for sticking around for as long as you could.

What about if you don’t want anything too serious?

Flirting is just friendly chatting.

Wait, so how is that different with friends??

Do you have to be friends first before you flirt? (I feel like a damn toddler or alien, asking these questions. 😅)

Ask out your crushes instead of trying to force a crush on someone you’re not attracted to.

So you just, ask them out? Do you need to behave any differently as you would with a friend?

Have you ever experienced sexual attraction?

Yeah, like a ton actually. Sorry I forgot to mention I do in fact develop feelings for people.

Edit: I added it to the description now

Okay I probably should’ve mentioned this. I most certainly do and can develop feelings for people but I just don’t know how to (for lack of a better word) make others see me for more than just a friend.

Edit: Okay it’s edited into the description now.

Not exactly answering the question here but I am wondering about whether or not this counts as inceldom.

So here’s the deal with me. I am an ugly person who is only attracted to attractive women. I have tried dating women who were, for a lack of better term, “looks-matched”. But even though we actually connected really well I just couldn’t develop any romantic feelings for them because of their looks.

Now this has left me in a situation where I am certain I will never get a girlfriend. My beauty standards are just too high. But I do not blame women for this. It’s perfectly reasonable for attractive people to want attractive partners. Hell, that’s pretty much my standard as well when it comes to dating (except I’m not physically attractive). So whadaya gonna do?

Rape can also happen between consenting people as well. In fact, quite a lot of what is and should be considered sexual assault/rape, is a partner “going too far” or doing something their consenting partner didn’t consent to.

Say one partner (A) did something to partner (B) which B did not consent to initially. B says this to partner A afterwards to which she replies “Sorry, but I was really close.” But she sort of promised to not do it again. What would you make of that?

I knew this post wouldn’t be a very “positive” one. But man that’s messed up. I think I understand now.

So you mean like a woman beats (or like really harasses) a man and in order to keep her at ease he relents? (English is not my first language)

Thank you for your advice! The dance party was a ton of fun and I danced with lots of different people!

Just remember that standing around and not talking to anyone is as much a choice as going up to someone and asking for a dance.

This one in particular really stuck with me. And I was surprised how much truth there was to this line ^^