I’d be curious to know what your native tongue is

I would not give you a specific language, but country is India

Orientation refers to the same thing as attraction

this is new to me. In my post I used orientation for what I assumed to be gender, but I had no idea it was also related to attraction.

I do understand both points of finding similar folks or possibly finding partners

does your language assume that gay people do not exist?

pretty much. Many old folks consider it as a disease or mental illness.

Do you use the exact same word for a man who likes women (eg a straight man) as you would for a woman who likes women (eg a lesbian)?

That was not a thing, and hence it never had a word/s. basically someone born with a male reproductive part was male, other is female, and that is about it. A male was (is) expected to marry a female (love or arranged(where family finds “suitable” partners, and the bride/groom have little idea of other)).

Things have changed a lot for better in past 2 decades, but much of the “older ways” still remain as “traditions”.

I never confused sex and gender, as you describe them, as I said these do not exist as separate concepts in my natiive tounge. I used different words for them, which while not ideal, do convey the meaning. My questions were mostly regarding gendered pronouns, and having terms for different sexes (as in lgb of lgbt) or genders (t of lgbt), and why do even need terms for these, or why would one like to share it with others.

I also did use yacy for some time, but problem is - index is too small. I could within weeks visit each and every page indexed by yacy, and that is not a good thing

no, libreddit ( a privacy frontend for reddit, third party) was renamed to redlib.

We all got our own shit and the world would be a better place if people could just not be assholes to each other about the little things

If only everyone would get that. Thanks!

old reddit or libreddit (now redlib). If you browse without accout, that should be enough. If you have a account, I would still enable js only for old reddit and not reddit as whole.

No, it is unnecessary, and it would break many auto updating websites, for example, if you use mail in web, then your mail provider has web sockets to get notifications from server to fetch you mail.

I generally would recommend to disable javascript , and have a whitelist for websites you trust (easily achievable by ublock, or no script). If they do not have js, most attack vectors are neutralised. If you can trust a website to run js, you can trust it to run web sockets.

I think giving any terms create a divide (someone in rainbow club, and someone not). If everyone is in the club, then why even call it a club, that is like whole earth. I generally would prefer if we move away from any terms at all, and just stop asking about gender and sex

I did not know that. Thanks!

that was not the part of chain i wanted to refer to. Essentially, my native tongue (or culture in which I was raised), there is (was) no difference between sex and gender, as in, there were not separate concepts. What you guys would call a gender (and this is also partly based on interaction in this chain, where I even ask what does being a male even mean) - users preference of pronoun, or attire, etc is what I called orientation in my op (again, I also said in op that I do not know if that is correct term for it, and it was not).

the paragraph you have highlighted was the only part where I refered sex as sex (the one associated with your partner/s). Other than that paragraph, I mostly (I am guessing here, again, for me concept of gender is new and still fuzzy) meant gender.

I would apologise again for mmy lack of knowledge on this stuff, and this post has helped me understand gender better.

I played super tux kart (or any kind of cart racing game for that matter) and had a great time

hey jubliant, do you remember me? Greetings! How are you doing? (In case you do not, we had personal chat)

I consider the identity obsession of Gen Z to be mostly narcissistic self-regard. It reflects our society’s rampant individualism, where kids have become a lifestyle choice and pampered like fragile consumer objects. I don’t have any answers about how to fix any of this. Indeed I’m something of an individualist myself.

this seems a bit to harsh. As I see, most people are overly stimulated, this just makes them react a bit more visibly. This is also because of social media. Some news from other side of globe that you may have never got earlier, or weeks later, you now get that in minutes, and similarly, the friction to post is also very low, so most people feel like “raising voice”. Though I do not treat raising voices online to be equivalent to in person voice raising but that is a separate discussion. Maybe individualism is on a rise, because our lives now do not depend much on other people (it still does, now you just do not have to interact with them), so you do not hear about their problems or perspective.

Thanks for sharing. I have heard pretty crazy stuff, and this seems more believable.

off the shelf Wireguard or OpenVPN are immediately detected and blocked with no chance to get through at all

Is it possible for you guys to buy vps outside and somehow pay them (that would probably be the hard part) or maybe find some friends or diaspora outside, and have them pay for vps to set your personal vpns. You can make it somewhat obfuscated, and mostly hide it as some work related stuff.

Do you guys use tor or i2p? I would presume you are “allowed” but still have to hide it.

On average I have to spend 10% of my working time every just trying to get a good connection online.

that is really sad, sorry to hear about that.

Thanks for sharing. I have heard pretty crazy stuff, and this seems more believable.

off the shelf Wireguard or OpenVPN are immediately detected and blocked with no chance to get through at all

Is it possible for you guys to buy vps outside and somehow pay them (that would probably be the hard part) or maybe find some friends or diaspora outside, and have them pay for vps to set your personal vpns. You can make it somewhat obfuscated, and mostly hide it as some work related stuff.

Do you guys use tor or i2p? I would presume you are “allowed” but still have to hide it.

On average I have to spend 10% of my working time every just trying to get a good connection online.

that is really sad, sorry to hear about that.

Sorry, but am I known? I thought I was a huge noobie lemmy user.

this is the comment chain - https://lemmings.world/post/28743360/16394388

thanks!

Aye, Aye sire!!!

I think what’s important is that we’re willing to learn.

(mutilating the legendary quote) “You should keep learning things from other nations. If you stop doing so, your knowledge gets stagnant and stale” - Uncle Iroh

If someone’s trying hard to pass as a gender that doesn’t match their sex, having someone misgender them feels pretty awful.

understandable. I can see that someone who might have past trauma, or something alike, it would only sprinkle salt on wounds. In my case, I am basically a slowpoke.