We’ll start by building an emotional connection and mutual understanding over several days. If things go well there and we click, I’ll do the same with him. Then we’ll all discuss what each of us want, where our boundaries are, both emotional and physical, and negotiate with each other until everyone is comfortable and excited. When the time arrives we’ll ease into it and slowly escalate until I’m railing you while he gets off on your pleasure. Afterwards we’ll all talk about how we feel and address any negative emotions that come up. You know just some solid aftercare. Then we’ll all go out for burritos because all that physical and emotional effort is draining. Hopefully we all stay friends and we can do it again.
Intense Pulsed Light (IPL) hair removal uses a very bright white light to damage the hair follicles. This will make the hair thinner and finer over time, and theoretically can permanently damage the follicles to remove hair completely. You can buy hand held home devices, though the process is time consuming for large areas like the legs. The procedure I use is to shave, exfoliate, then flash the hairs I want to remove. I’ve used it a few times on everything from my face to my feet and it has helped a lot. Massively reduced my ingrown hairs from shaving and the hairs that aren’t dead are much finer and softer so I can shave them faster and against the grain where I couldn’t before.
I should note that it doesn’t work well for light hair or low contrast between the hair and the skin.
For shaving I use a safety razor, one of the fancy ones from Henson Shaving. It basically eliminated my razor burn and the razors stay sharp way longer than the standard multiblade razors. I could shave dry with that thing (slowly).