So, I’m afab and probably agender, which is where the confusion is coming from. I’m on estrogen and progesterone because otherwise my cycle is stuck to ‘on’, so even my relationship with hormones is complicated.

Neither of these things directly tell me my subconscious sex, but when the testosterone makes me feel awful, or when being treated and seen as a woman makes me feel wonderful, or when estrogen gives me mild waves of buzzing bodily euphoric, I make inferences about my subconscious sex from that.

See, none of that resonates with me at all. Going off my meds makes me feel terrible, but that’s from the resulting anemia. I’ve tried living as a man, I’ve tried living as a woman, I’ve never gotten that “yes, this is me” feeling that people talk about. I don’t know what “psychological self conceptualization” as a gender means, because it’s all uncomfortable for me?

It feels like what you’re talking about is the university course and I’m still in primary education.

It may not help, but I do enjoy this poem by Caitlin Seida:

Hope Is Not a Bird, Emily, It’s a Sewer Rat

• Hope is not the thing with feathers
• That comes home to roost
• When you need it most.

• Hope is an ugly thing
• With teeth and claws and
• Patchy fur that’s seen some shit.

• It’s what thrives in the discards
• And survives in the ugliest parts of our world,
• Able to find a way to go on
• When nothing else can even find a way in.

• It’s the gritty, nasty little carrier of such
• diseases as
• optimism, persistence,
• Perseverance and joy,
• Transmissible as it drags its tail across
• your path
• and
• bites you in the ass.

• Hope is not some delicate, beautiful bird,
• Emily.
• It’s a lowly little sewer rat
• That snorts pesticides like they were
• Lines of coke and still
• Shows up on time to work the next day
• Looking no worse for wear.#

When I say gender identity is biological, I am talking about what Julia Serano calls “subconscious sex” which she also sometimes interchanges with “gender identity”, which is basically that innate and unchanging sense of your sex / gender.

Okay, but what about those of us that have never had an innate and unchanging sense of my sex/gender?

I’m with you on this. My childhood church was christo-fascist, and it was my wide wanderings on the web that showed me a different way was possible.

I see you haven’t experienced the “fresh” produce my local grocery is offering.

Hey, I only hoard garbage in my depression nest #notalldragons

It has a fair share of copypasta, and I am curious what would make copypasta a meme, but not a twitter screenshot.

That doesn’t match up with what KnowYourMeme.com says

Memes are broadly defined as culturally transmitted information or ideas and beliefs that can be spread from one organism, or group of organisms, to another.

He’s getting it mixed up with Wisconsin, which does raw ground beef on a bun.

Ugh, my banking app doesn’t work on my phone any more because it’s “old”. It came out in 2017.

Honestly, ‘patriarchy’ is a terrible term that leads to so much confusion. Too many people use it as ‘blame men’ and forget that it’s supposed to be about men being culturally cast as perfect leaders and therefore punished for not meeting those impossible standards.

I have high hopes that the spreading acceptance of transfolk will start to break down the weird gender roles we’ve got, and maybe we can talk about some of this stuff more directly.

American culture is changing. It used to be that family bonds were the tightest, and we had generational housing, but that started going away during the great depression when a lot of family farms shut down and people lost the house they’d been in for generations. We also don’t like to talk about the amount of generational trauma that came from both the world wars, and that was another nail in the coffin of family life. The most recent blow has been the economy, where both parents need to work and don’t have the time to build the bonds with their children that are needed for a tight-knit family unit.

The title literally says it’s a secret. If he’s not the only one saying it, then it’s not a secret, and the title is dishonest.

It’s one of those things you kinda had to be there for. Japan used to be practically synonymous with new tech, and now it’s just been baked into the aesthetic of the genre.

Rosemary is also a decent option if you want something that looks more like a christmas tree, but tabletop size