Yeah, I don’t think she actually wants to be your friend. I recommend the song “I’m Looking Through You” by The Beatles.

"I’m looking through you, where did you go I thought I knew you, what did I know You don’t look different, but you have changed I’m looking through you, you’re not the same

Why, tell me why, did you not treat me right? Love has a nasty habit of disappearing overnight"

Yes, most likely. What exactly was she saying to them? She could have been joking, but to not flirt with your own partner shows she was not attracted to you, probably.

In other words, she may care for you in a general sense, but not a personal one, if you get it.

Awww, sorry to hear. I think Sophie just needs some time but either wants to be friends or is unsure. Give her space, which you seem to be doing, but also be kind to her.

Honestly? She might care and be a kind person but doesn’t want to be friends if that makes sense.

ahhh, ok. i’m definitely omni then.

Ciao! Parlo anche italiano :)

Sorry, is this your ex-girlfriend you were talking about who was bullying your friend or whatever? Or just in general? Anyway, she probably needs an outlet for her pain if she was bullied but it doesn’t excuse her behavior in any way.

On one hand, maybe y’all need some time. On the other, you kinda are bad for ghosting your “friend”. What the hell?

yes, you are TA. You are absolutely leading her on in this case and your shrugging isn’t gonna help anything. It’s just gonna make her upset. You gotta communicate with people.

Good comment. Thanks a bunch!

Not overreacting, it could be a red flag. I would say your feelings and thoughts definitely are valid, but give her the benefit of the doubt and also ask what’s going on, don’t make false accusations. Break up with her if she turns out to be bullying your friend and/or making you choose between her or him as an ultimatum.

Uhh… your GF sucks and you should break up. I’m sorry to hear this :(

I’m sorry. You are a terrible person. You sound awful.

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I think she did break up with you. Sorry to hear, man. I think you should take a break from Lemmy and breathe. Please, going forward, respect her boundaries and don’t pry further if she sent a goodbye message.

Don’t worry! I’m sure she just thinks it’s too soon in the relationship. Only be concerned when she starts going all out then like pulling away, like another user said.

Pretending to like someone, I think

It’s cute that you’re already feeling the “honeymoon” feelings, but I think you should talk to her and go at her pace so she feels comfortable too. If you’re feeling bummed, try self-care first and don’t feel pressured too much to be super attached. Maybe set goals and keep it consensual, like hand holding, then hugging, etc.

Try also looking at queerplatonic relationships or I heard platonic marriage exists.

It’s ok. You could be aro or ace. You just could express and feel love differently. Express your boundaries but make sure she also feels loved, respects your boundaries, and expresses hers too. Also, I doubt you’re ready to put a ring on her finger yet.