In my experience, such labels tend to exist solely for the use by people who don’t need to know. I think a lot of the talk about ‘gay-bi-straight’ has a lot of similarities to other conversations, like music genre.

As a musician, as a teenager my friends and I used to have long conversations trying to figure out what genre a band is. Is Alice in Chains “metal”, for example? Does grunge count as a sub-genre of metal or is it separate? Because Alice in Chains certainly flirts with metal a lot, but not all grunge bands do that… And then we get into all the subgenres with words like “core” and “post” tackled on seemingly at random. As I got older I listened to more music, read interviews with artists, and wrote more of my own music. I realized my best music was written without any thought given to genre at all as a writer, and usually blurred the lines between genres. I noticed how some bands change genre completely- either gradually over decades, or from album to album, song to song, or even within songs. The conversation about genre was really more relevant to the people trying to market and sell music than the actual artists.

The human brain is designed to find patterns and associations. To take the hundreds or thousands of independent variables it is exposed to and forget connections between them and sort results into broad, and often imperfect, categories.

I view sex as similar. Is pegging gay? Are femboys gay? Are muscle mommy’s gay? Is a MMF threesome gay? I think the real question is “why do you care?”. If you’re filling out a profile on a dating site, identifying as straight, gay, or bi will probably help you to get better results, especially if you happen to fall within those categories nearly. It helps to organize porn catalogues too. But for understanding yourself and your partners, I think it is important to look beyond those broad classifications to the multitude of little variables of what someone does or does not like. If you don’t intend to have sex with someone, your sexual preferences are none of their business.

And even those variables are not necessarily boolean ones. For example, I’ve been with women who love anal, women who like having their butthole played with a bit but not penetrated, and women who don’t want any stimulation anywhere near that.

Personally, I’ve always identified as straight. A few years ago I started to explore prostate stimulation with my wife- first fingering, then pegging, then massagers and eventually a fuck machine. My wife has always been bi and we had a 3some with her bi-curious female friend a while back. We also had a few other close encounters where we almost had 3somes with other women too.

About a year and a half ago we made friends with another couple- a fully bisexual man with a lot of experience with men, and a bi-curious non-binary vagina owner with almost no experience with women. A few months ago they asked if we wanted to swing. We had some preliminary conversations about it and discussed man-on-man activity, and I said “I’m not vegan and I would never seek out vegan food on my own, but if I’m hanging out with my vegan friends and there are vegan snacks I’ll eat them and try to enjoy them”.

So yeah I’ve been messing around with a guy a bit for the past few months. Making out, oral both ways, fingering both ways, using toys. We eventually plan on doing anal both ways but there’s a lot of logistics to that (he’s also been dealing with ED, and we all had the flu for a bit).

It’s all been… Fine. I think I can safely say I am far more attracted to feminine traits than masculine ones. It’s fun to have something to do while watching our spouses together. But I have not gotten close to cumming with him and occasionally have had difficulty staying hard… Until one of our spouses comes over and starts touching me. Sometimes we will also watch TV or a movie and the 3 of them will start talking about how hot a male actor is and I just can’t relate.

So weird though it may be, in spite of the fact that I’m regularly having sex with another man I still identify as straight.

Honestly I’m not familiar with the histories of other major American car companies but would it really be all that surprising if we found more?

It really varies quite widely with a lot of different variables, and different people have different levels of control.

Back when I was 17 I could basically go all day. I could cum 3-4 times a day easily with just a quick 15 minute break after. I used condoms back then too- i always kind of liked condoms because the cleanup is easy and dulling the sensations help me last longer. It also helped that I was in the best shape of my life and full of hormones encouraging me to spread my DNA as far and wide as possible.

As I got older that just wasn’t as feasible. The hormones faded. My wife doesn’t like the feel of condoms so she got an IUD (I am certainly not complaining either way lol). The stress of college and work and maintaining a household builds up. I have been in-and-out of shape over time, but never as good as I was at 17. Back in college we would often find ourselves going through a long day of school, work, and trying to do chores around our apartment and going to bed at 11 PM, having to wake up at 5 or 6 AM the next day. So the longer we would have sex the less sleep we would get, so we would try to wrap it up in like 5 or 10 minutes. Eventually graduating college and getting a proper career instead of retail helped, but it’s still difficult to find more than an hour at a time to dedicate to sex.

There have also been occasions where I have been out of shape and failed to pace myself. I’d go with intensity for a few minutes, get an elevated heart rate and out of breath, and eventually be forced to lay down and suck wind without cumming. There have also been times where my wife might be a bit sore and start encouraging me to finish before I otherwise would.

By myself, there are some times where I want to just crank one out in a minute or two to get some quick stress relief or post-nut clarity. There’s other times where my wife is away traveling and I have the house to myself, so I take an hour to watch porn and have a nice time. I started messing with prostate stimulation a few years ago, and while I haven’t had a prostate orgasm yet I have gone I think 3 hours trying.

We also started swinging with another couple: a bi man and a bi non-binary vagina owner, and my wife is bi too. I’d say I’m heteroflexible (I’m not attracted to masculine traits, but I’m not gonna let that stop me from having a good time). One of the most surprising things about the orgies has been just how much orgasm variance there is.

The nonbinary person cums very easily, from both external and internal stimulus. I have gotten them to cum a couple times with neither- just me being the big spoon, them the little spoon, dry humping them with my dick rubbing against their ass. They usually cum 5-6 times per session and the other 3 of us need to go easy on them or else they’ll be tapped out in like 20 minutes.

I was worried at first that I might cum too fast. I am not sure what my refractory period is because I haven’t had the chance to test it in over a decade, but my guess would be at least a couple hours at this point. So I try not to cum until we are close to done. So far I have basically been successful, but there have been a few sessions where I didn’t cum at all. I think just from being tired. I’d be hard and functional for a few hours, then go soft and be unable to get hard again. A couple times that coincided with us going really late into the early morning hours, so I may have been sleep deprived. Or I might need to research anatomy a bit more- could be that I need to be in better cardiovascular shape, or perhaps exercise certain muscles like the kegels more.

He has only managed to cum a couple of times. According to the two of them, he has always been really hard to get to cum, but also he has almost no refractory period and he usually has the energy to keep going for hours. He also started some medication a couple months before we started swinging that has ED as a side-effect, so he’s been working to find the right pharmaceutical mix.

My wife has always had a difficult time cumming too, but can manage to with a Hitachi to the clit probably 75% of the time. She’s cum from penetration or me giving her oral maybe a dozen times in the 13 years we’ve been together, so not impossible but not common. She also has occasions with her Hitachi where she has been able to string together a videogame-style combo of 5 or 6 orgasms together but that’s also rare.

So there have been a few sessions where 3 of us don’t cum at all, but we still have fun for a few hours. With biological processes everyone is different, and every time is different. If you would like to go longer you should talk to your partner about it and make sure they know that. The hardest part is to find the right balance of communicating what you want without making them feel bad or pressuring them. But the most important thing is to have that shared expectation of how long you want things to last. He may not be able to go for a full hour, and unless you already know that you can find from prostate stimulation easily that probably won’t happen. But if he knows you are having a good time and want to go longer perhaps that 10 minutes can stretch to 30?

Maybe say “hey let’s block out a couple hours here so we can take our time”. Maybe use toys for a while and put on a good show for your BF. I find playing music can help for 2 reasons: setting the pace and measuring time. When you are topping with a penis, it’s easy to get into a sort of upward spiral of going faster and harder until you cum. Having a nice beat to match can help prevent that. Having a song change every 3-5 minutes can also be a good marking point- time for a position change, or a bathroom/water break, or maybe a hit of the vape, a bit more lube, a stretch. I recommend the instrumental version of the album “Music to Make Love to your Old Lady By”, but I also find lo-fi, chillwave, Dreamwave, and synthwave playlists. Vocals can sometimes be distracting or weird so I prefer instrumentals where possible.

And also, I’d recommend letting him know when you want him to cum. I get nervous about cumming too soon, or in the wrong place, so I appreciate my partner saying “now” and “here” so I don’t have to infer that.

If anyone is interested in the particular artist this AI is referencing, his name is Jeffrey Smith.

Most of these positions do not require a college degree. They don’t need RN’s- a lot of these positions can be filled by high school kids. My wife and a lot of our friends in high school and college worked these jobs. My neighbor did in-home care for decades with no degree and recently chose to retire early because the pay wasn’t worth staying and she makes more money buying and selling antiques at conventions now.

How many other qualified people have been forced out of the industry due to low wages?

Your comments on Biden seem to indicate You’re either uninformed or purposefully spreading political misinformation. A quick internet search will tell you the Biden administration has forgiven $153 billion in student loans. It would be more if the Supreme Court hasn’t shut down his broader cancellation measures last year.

Is he doing everything he can? Well I’ve seen tons of proposals for other measures to cap the tuition costs or change federal lending, but afaik just about everything would require a bill to be passed by Congress. This may shock you, but Biden can to vote in either the House of Representatives or the Senate so you need to find your own representatives, find their stances, and write to them about this (or anything else you care about).

Unless you have some other proposal I haven’t heard of for executive action that could survive the supreme court?

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I would not recommend getting too attached to NSFW Reddit. They’re trying to have an IPO next year and clearly have a history of making decisions that affect their bottom line.

Most advertisers don’t want to be associated with NSFW. Reddit is caught between their users, who clearly want it, and the $. The problem is that without the NSFW users, there’s a whole lot less people to advertise to.

Maybe NSFW survives the IPO, but it seems to me like just a matter of time before control of the company falls to someone who removes it.

It seems like a lot of your issues are specific to this instance. There are other NSFW instances you can try too. Honestly you’re probably best off using a few.

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