• @Szymon@lemmy.ca
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        There’s likely some deep rooted trauma there which would be beneficial to have some professional guidance to uncover and address through rational eyes. Our brains will create defence mechanisms to protect itself from perceived harm, but the mechanism may not be a healthy one. A professional can help sus out areas of concern for you and give you new tools for dealing with those emotions.

        Her unhealthy choices concerning social behavior and eating habits are likely symptoms of a deeper issue.

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          Thanks once again kind stranger. You helped me not get angry at those bitches while also showing me the way to deal with mental problems.

          Although I should have known better to give importance to a shitpost.

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            Shitpost or not, there’s often an opportunity to reflect and learn. Best of luck my friend

  • Your regular reminder that just being fat does not make you an incel, plenty of very fat guys have partners.

    What makes a person an incel is the irrational hatred of women and thinking it’s their fault they don’t get laid while at the same time not noticing or trying to improve upon their own issues.

    This can go the other way too where women hate men for the same reason, but I don’t know what that’s called.

    It is ironic though that her pair of one was simply describing fat guys, but I have no idea how much audio was clipped or what the contract here is.

    • @KombatWombat@lemmy.world
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      Strictly speaking, incel refers to someone involuntarily celibate, regardless of gender. Femcel is the common 4chan term for female incels. It’s been used to describe the often misandrist subculture of r/FemaleDatingStrategy as an example.

      • I believe it’s not involuntary though. I bet it feels involuntary because change is hard, but I bet very very few people actually fall into that bin.

        At some point i think they just accept the label and stop trying to improve while pointing to the convenient answers.

  • @TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee
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    This thread is gonna be fun because some of our fellow lemurs are gonna feel real called out.

    Watch for the fat jokes and misogyny, those ones.

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    Y’all hating but as big and unattractive as she is there’s definitely some dude (or chick) getting in those guts, unlike incels.

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      You sure? Cuz I don’t think anything shorter of a 10m dildo can get anywhere near her guts.

      Talking from experience. Big girls need big dick.

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        Yeah I’m sure you’re talking from experience OP, lol.

        You can tell by her confidence, if she wasn’t getting her fair share she wouldn’t be able to say what she’s saying so confidently, because looks aren’t everything, confidence and charisma can make up for a lot, plus it’s almost always easier for women to get theirs.

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          People can put on a good show. Actors do it all the time. People can act out confidence if they were inclined to do so.

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            Really, that’s how acting works? Gee i would have never guessed that. /s

            Do you know how to spot bad acting? The same way you can spot people lacking confidence, there’s tells, and she doesn’t seem to have any here, either she’s getting hers or she’s content with what she’s got going on in that department. Because realistically that’s what it’s all about, not like you would get a lot of aesexual incels, right?

            But hey dude, enjoy that superiority complex you got going, I’m sure you can do so much better while hate posting two chicks clowning incels.

            • @0x4E4F@lemmy.dbzer0.comOP
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              Do you know how to spot bad acting?

              Yes I do. I can also give examples.

              The same way you can spot people lacking confidence, there’s tells, and she doesn’t seem to have any here, either she’s getting hers or she’s content with what she’s got going on in that department. Because realistically that’s what it’s all about, not like you would get a lot of aesexual incels, right?

              From what I could tell, she’s not asexual. If nothing else, overweight women usually have a higher sex drive and better orgasms (something to do with the fat and chemistry… I’ve read about it, but can’t remember where). The same is not true for men.

              So, one, she’s either a REALLY good actor (not gonna bet on this to be honest), two, she’s getting her part (an arm can do much more than a penis can… not judging on kinks or preferences), or three, she’s asexual (not gonna bet on this either… especially by the way she’s dressed).

              So, your point was, she’s probably getting it. I can agree with that based on what I saw. Is she getting it from who she wants? Not likely. Does she care? All she seems to care about is reddit and upvotes (judging by the firey nature of her reply and the length of it). Does that make her an incel? Technically no. Realistically, yes. If she does actually get it as much as she wants, but not by the person (persons) she wants to get it from, that’s mostly a male perspective (which can be true for overweight women). Imagne if there was an overweigt man sitting in her place and saying the same things she is saying and with the same ammount of confidence. Would you believe him? Over 90% of people would disregard it as a lie. Yet, she gets the benefit of the doubt. Why? Cuz she’s confident 💪.

              But hey dude, enjoy that superiority complex you got going, I’m sure you can do so much better while hate posting two chicks clowning incels.

              Wrong. The one trashing on incels is most likely and incel herself, but in another form and shape. If the question was “what is a porker”, I can bet you any amount you want, she was gonna go down in tears.

  • @Denjin
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    She’s not wrong