Hi, so I’m a high school student and I happen to be trans FtM. I know I’m quite young, but I do believe in the importance of supporting trans people, even young people just in general.
I was born a girl (obviously) but now I’m a guy named Anthony. When I came out to my social worker “Mrs. A” (not her real name or initial), she said that she was proud of me for coming out, but that if I wanted teachers to refer to me as “male”, “he/him”, Anthony, etc. that I’d have to come out to my legal guardian.
The thing is my guardian isn’t the most supportive of trans people. I came out to him a few years ago and he said I was just a confused girl and that “the left was just pushing their agenda onto me”. He loves me, I’m sure he does, but he definitely wouldn’t support me.
I told my therapist and a good friend of mine and both of them said that was breaking a rule of confidentiality. My sister told me that too. My therapist wonders if it’s to get it changed on paperwork or something but says that if I want to be called Anthony at school, there should be no problem.
What do you all think?
Agreed. They gave me a choice: I could go by my birth name and she/her pronouns, or go by Anthony and he/him pronouns but if I went by “Anthony (the guy)” and not “[Birth name] the girl” she would either have me come out or out me herself and be like “Hey, your daughter is now your son and he asked me to call him Anthony because he is transgender”.
Does your school have some kind of fucked up policy about this? I’m wondering if it’s a mandate.
They must, I hope not, though. It seems transphobic either way.
It’s increasingly legally mandated places. Parents considering it a violation of their ownership of their children to be left out of the loop