crosspostato da: https://thelemmy.club/post/35017645

so, i’ve already talked a lot about sophie, my recent ex. now i’m asking for advice on her. basically, i really liked her but she was taking more than giving and it wasn’t really 50/50. i discovered (and so did she) she was aromantic and didn’t actually like me that way and that’s why she refused to be romantic with me and even seemed repulsed by it. (the idea of being romantic), yet she flirts with others and jokes about kissing them just fine and did that in our “relationship” and right after we broke up. now, she wants to continue being with me in a “talking stage” because she “really likes me” and hopes she can get to know me better “as friends”.

here’s the thing: my feelings for this guy eric are resurfacing. should i continue being in an ambiguous friendship with someone who only recently discovered what she wanted and still doesn’t know or just be completely, unambiguously, friends and later pursue eric in the future?

should i also be concerned that she can’t flirt with her own girlfriend but makes very sexual jokes about other people while in a relationship?

  • EndlessApollo@lemmy.worldEnglish
    4·
    2 天前

    Go for Eric. Whether or not you can handle being platonic friends with your ex is up to you, but there’s no good to be had from putting off other romantic interests in favor of someone who doesn’t want the same kind of relationship as you, and likely never will. If being friends with your ex and dating Eric is too much for you, just take some time apart, or separate on good terms.

    • emi (she/him)@thelemmy.clubOPEnglish
      2·
      2 天前

      thank you so much!! :))

      neither of us want to leave the other and feel bad/make each other feel bad but both of us want to break up, i think.