I’m fully aware that only I myself can decide whether or not I’m bi, and I know I probably will eventually, but I recently broke up with my girlfriend because I realized her gender wasn’t that attractive to me, and I wanted a boyfriend. Not a girlfriend. Men, I definitely prefer, and they’re more attractive to me.
I thought she was attractive to me, but I view her as more of a sister or friend, which we are now (friends). Can someone help me out, please? I don’t want to claim to be something if I’m not, but I’ll still be an ally if it turns out I’m straight. (I’m a nonbinary genderfluid person so I’ll still be LGBT).
As Alice Oseman says in her books, anyone can pick any label, or choose no label, of sexuality and no one can deny them.
With that said, at the end of the day, the more difficult to reconcile self concepts (how people see themselves) with the real selves (how people behave in real world), the more unlikely for ones to be happy. The bigger the chism, the more fragmented how people see themselves.
Op, are you happy?
Many people attracted to both sexes sexually may choose to label themselves gay because emotionally and spiritually, they want to grow old with someone with the same gender.
Sexuality is more than sexual attraction.
Labels are for soup cans. Don’t stress too much about it, just go with what feels comfortable to you.
Very much with this. You are you. And that’s it. If the person you build a relationship with gives, shares & cares as you do then you’re onto a winner. That’s what’s important.
i’m not sure. if you still like girls but not her, you probably are bi, but if you flat-out don’t like girls and that’s the reason you broke up, you’re MOST LIKELY straight.
