Sounds like a child or someone extremely immature that has uncritically absorbed idealistic, unrealistic, and counter-productive mass cultural ideals (meaning, created by the ultra-rich owners of media/advertising corporations to manipulate the masses for their own ends) without thinking about the necessary sacrifices to achieve those goals, or the negative consequences that would occur as a result of achieving those goals, or whether any of those goals would actually lead to fulfillment and happiness.
Sounds like my ex. Terrified to show vulnerability, since it was always horribly punished by the abuser, so they endlessly deflect blame onto others. And it’s not just a tactic, but an all-encompassing delusion that cannot be reasoned with and they don’t even see. And unfortunately, healing begins with being vulnerable, accepting responsibility, and trusting in others that want to help you.
(Not responsibility for why they are that way, but responsibility for how their actions hurt others and taking responsibility for healing, since no one else can do it for them.)
I unfortunately had an abused partner and they had narcissistic behaviors that were either ways to survive the abuse, or learned directly from their abuser, mirroring and reproducing the very behavior that damaged them so badly.
My other guess would be she’s a narcissist exhibiting narcissistic behavior and thinks everyone else will think more highly of her if she says she values those things.
All of those ideals embody the most selfish, toxic, and self-defeating ideas that we all carry to some degree as a result of this capitalist, consumerist culture we exist within. To see someone claim to believe every single one so unconditionally is wild to me.
I see nothing in there about friendship, love, or community, or finding satisfaction in struggle, or good health, or humility, or responsibility, or charity.
Sounds like a child or someone extremely immature that has uncritically absorbed idealistic, unrealistic, and counter-productive mass cultural ideals (meaning, created by the ultra-rich owners of media/advertising corporations to manipulate the masses for their own ends) without thinking about the necessary sacrifices to achieve those goals, or the negative consequences that would occur as a result of achieving those goals, or whether any of those goals would actually lead to fulfillment and happiness.
She also says people saying it’s unrealistic are “abusing her”.
Sounds like my ex. Terrified to show vulnerability, since it was always horribly punished by the abuser, so they endlessly deflect blame onto others. And it’s not just a tactic, but an all-encompassing delusion that cannot be reasoned with and they don’t even see. And unfortunately, healing begins with being vulnerable, accepting responsibility, and trusting in others that want to help you.
(Not responsibility for why they are that way, but responsibility for how their actions hurt others and taking responsibility for healing, since no one else can do it for them.)
She’s 24, my age. She has apparently suffered extreme abuse for years and is locked up in her house, IDK.
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I unfortunately had an abused partner and they had narcissistic behaviors that were either ways to survive the abuse, or learned directly from their abuser, mirroring and reproducing the very behavior that damaged them so badly.
My other guess would be she’s
a narcissistexhibiting narcissistic behavior and thinks everyone else will think more highly of her if she says she values those things.All of those ideals embody the most selfish, toxic, and self-defeating ideas that we all carry to some degree as a result of this capitalist, consumerist culture we exist within. To see someone claim to believe every single one so unconditionally is wild to me.
I see nothing in there about friendship, love, or community, or finding satisfaction in struggle, or good health, or humility, or responsibility, or charity.