I would actually prefer anonymous advice when I’m having issues in a relationship because typically when people gripe about their relationships they only talk about the bad things and they only talk to people that care about them.
This ends up making it so that the people you are talking to hear all the bad stuff about the other person, and that causes them to start to dislike that other person.
It’s too easy to build negative feedback loops that can destroy relationships.
If talking to the internet isn’t good and talking to your friends isn’t good, then the only thing that’s really valid and valuable left would be to talk to a relationship counselor, or a personal therapist, whose only goal is to help you achieve your goals in a way that is healthy for you.
I agree with your last paragraph. As for the rest - each to their own. But online relationship advice communities often have their own biases and groupthink, and strangers will frequently “fill in the blanks” with their own assumptions. The advice is rarely objective.
I would actually prefer anonymous advice when I’m having issues in a relationship because typically when people gripe about their relationships they only talk about the bad things and they only talk to people that care about them.
This ends up making it so that the people you are talking to hear all the bad stuff about the other person, and that causes them to start to dislike that other person.
It’s too easy to build negative feedback loops that can destroy relationships.
If talking to the internet isn’t good and talking to your friends isn’t good, then the only thing that’s really valid and valuable left would be to talk to a relationship counselor, or a personal therapist, whose only goal is to help you achieve your goals in a way that is healthy for you.
I agree with your last paragraph. As for the rest - each to their own. But online relationship advice communities often have their own biases and groupthink, and strangers will frequently “fill in the blanks” with their own assumptions. The advice is rarely objective.
Yes, but a large number of strangers with different life experiences can help cancel out any one person’s personal baggage.