There was a time when I would have accepted to go back for 3x the pay, or just go back and slack my ass off until I got fired, laughing my way to the bank.
But what changed for me is that I realized they are a bunch of self-serving liars-- and if they screwed me over once, they will totally do it again.
I would be stupid to put myself into that position and be stressed out the whole time trying to anticipate when they are going to pull the rug from underneath me again.
Instead, I rather move on to a new job, meet some new people, get paid to watch training videos which are often interesting and valuable (and if they are not, I just play Balatro on my phone while I half listen to them).
I also almost always get a pay raise when I move on to a new job, but not always. Moving from public accounting to state government accounting was a significant pay cut for me, but now I am going to get much better benefits, work less hours, my coworkers I’ve met so far are awesome, and the work I am going to do actually helps protect my state and my community. I know I’m going to be much happier in this new role and I value that more than I value money. And if I’m not, I’ll just bounce and find something else.
And I know we often think that’s easy to say when you don’t have kids to feed, and while it is true that I do not, I would much rather explain to my kids that we will all have to learn how to plant a veggie garden together and make do with less before I teach them to accept being abused and exploited for the extra money.
There was a time when I would have accepted to go back for 3x the pay, or just go back and slack my ass off until I got fired, laughing my way to the bank.
But what changed for me is that I realized they are a bunch of self-serving liars-- and if they screwed me over once, they will totally do it again.
I would be stupid to put myself into that position and be stressed out the whole time trying to anticipate when they are going to pull the rug from underneath me again.
Instead, I rather move on to a new job, meet some new people, get paid to watch training videos which are often interesting and valuable (and if they are not, I just play Balatro on my phone while I half listen to them).
I also almost always get a pay raise when I move on to a new job, but not always. Moving from public accounting to state government accounting was a significant pay cut for me, but now I am going to get much better benefits, work less hours, my coworkers I’ve met so far are awesome, and the work I am going to do actually helps protect my state and my community. I know I’m going to be much happier in this new role and I value that more than I value money. And if I’m not, I’ll just bounce and find something else.
And I know we often think that’s easy to say when you don’t have kids to feed, and while it is true that I do not, I would much rather explain to my kids that we will all have to learn how to plant a veggie garden together and make do with less before I teach them to accept being abused and exploited for the extra money.