97% sure someone posted this at some point, but I think it’s been a while… ⊙⁠﹏⁠⊙

  • peoplebeproblems@midwest.social
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    99% sure that’s pretty normal for healthy minded people, men, women, trans, non-binary etc.

    Making the first move is taking a risk: aka being vulnerable. It’s when they don’t respond enthusiastically and you don’t stop that it’s a problem.

    • apotheotic (she/her)@beehaw.org
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      It is normal to feel some degree of trepidation when taking a risk: aka being vulnerable, but I don’t think its a stretch of the imagination to assert that it might be more stressful if you don’t have a firm grasp of neurotypical social graces and nonverbal communication.

      As an autistic person, what has worked quite well for me, though takes getting used to, is very transparently communicating about intentions and consent. It can seem quite intense but it does mean everyone knows where they stand and where boundaries lie.