Yeah the fear of imposing on someone. There are plenty of assholes, but lots of perfectly nice people just communicate what they want/need/feel and it’s okay. Not just talking about dating.
Then whenever you take your risk and do it, and get rejected, you retreat back to try it again in 6 months.
Edit: I have zero problem and welcome people being honest, and adjust accordingly. But when I try to do that it rarely works the same way. Could just be how I communicate, but it is a struggle.
I think the thing that makes people uncomfortable in this kind of scenario is if you don’t stop when they ask you to. Or you just refuse to take no for an answer. But our species would cease existing if nobody ever was made uncomfortable at some point by flirting because everyone’s lines and desires are on a spectrum. You can say the exact same thing the same way to two different folks and one will turn around and slap you for it and the other will get on their knees for you. Humans are weird.
This. I’d rather die alone than risk even the slightest possibility of making someone else uncomfortable.
why yes I am in therapy how did you know
That’s what I thought until I shot my shot and missed, until the redirected it back onto themselves.
IDK, sometimes you just gotta be a little naughty and see how they react. Maybe they’ll be just like you and take it right on their face.
I feel the exactly the same but am not in therapy. … Maybe I should consider therapy.
Same.
Yeah the fear of imposing on someone. There are plenty of assholes, but lots of perfectly nice people just communicate what they want/need/feel and it’s okay. Not just talking about dating.
Then whenever you take your risk and do it, and get rejected, you retreat back to try it again in 6 months.
Edit: I have zero problem and welcome people being honest, and adjust accordingly. But when I try to do that it rarely works the same way. Could just be how I communicate, but it is a struggle.
I think the thing that makes people uncomfortable in this kind of scenario is if you don’t stop when they ask you to. Or you just refuse to take no for an answer. But our species would cease existing if nobody ever was made uncomfortable at some point by flirting because everyone’s lines and desires are on a spectrum. You can say the exact same thing the same way to two different folks and one will turn around and slap you for it and the other will get on their knees for you. Humans are weird.