Yep it’s a classic symptom for me though. It’s often not nice for neuro people to have it pointed out to them, and it really isn’t nice when people do it to me. It’s embarrassing and taps into horrible memories from school.
If you spell something incorrectly and someone points it out (as long as they do this in a respectful way) why does that trigger you? You can clearly spell perfectly well so if you spell incorrectly on the odd occasion and someone tells you this it doesn’t imply something bad. If anything, you can improve your spelling for the future. 🤔
I akshuly no a gy ho rites lik this, bekaze hys brane litrly kant komprihend the difrense betwen fonetiks and speling.
Just by talking to him, you’d never guess anything was wrong. He’s eloquent and well spoken. He can read just fine. But watching him type emails is an exercise in patience. He’s in his late 30’s and it’s not something that remedial classes or correction by his peers could “cure”.
There are a couple of words you might want to look up. These are “dyslexia” and “dysgraphia”.
For the latter, no, they cannot improve their spelling for the future. It is literally impossible and correcting them constantly is a huge drain on their self-worth.
(P.S. Good on you for asking, however, instead of lecturing.)
Thanks for asking. Neurodiverse people are often labelled as thick and/or lazy at school, I was one of them. I had times where I was humiliated by teachers in front of class etc for making errors, and faced ridicule from students. Parents and teachers would flip on me for making mistakes, and I just couldn’t stop making them. It all really damaged my self esteem, relationship with parents, and education.
There’s other reasons that’s just the main one. And it’s fairly common with neurodiverse people IME
Thanks for replying. These experiences sound like people weren’t treating you with respect when correcting your spelling. That’s obviously pretty shitty.
But if someone does respectfully correct your spelling would you still be upset and take offence at them?
What are they trying to achieve correcting someone like that? IME they always do it publicly (so not through friendly DM), and often say it with ridicule.
What are they trying to achieve correcting someone like that?
I would imagine they’re trying to help you learn the correct way to spell? That’s not a bad thing. Especially if it helps others understand the meaning of what you’re trying to convey.
Ive never seen someone with a comment history pattern of doing that, only people choosing to do it the once. And if they’re trying to help, why say it publicly and with ridicule?
Fair enough. I don’t know your personal circumstances so can’t comment. But if someone did that to me I wouldn’t assume malicious intent. I just assume they’re trying to engage and be friendly.
Until it is mentioned (often afterwards), how would one know the person is neurodivergent? Is it fine to correct someone making those mistakes who are neurotypical?
I think how the correction is made is the differing factor, because you can never have complete information about the people you reply to on a platform like this.
On the other side, there is definitely a time and place to correct people for simple mistakes, especially if you still understand what they mean. Replying to someone asking for help in a matter is probably not one of those times. Replying to someone pointing out other mistakes or lack of knowledge, I think, is a fine place to make corrections (respectfully).
Especially if no one is called out by name and insults aren’t being used.
Correcting in public is almost always a dick move. Precisely because you don’t know the circumstances:
They may be neurodivergent.
They may be facing a language barrier.
They may have been in a hurry and didn’t pay attention.
They may suck at typing.
They may have been burned by their phone’s autocorrect.
… and a cast of hundreds more.
Since you don’t know, shutting the fuck up in public is the best thing. Ask if they mind correction, and if the answer is negative, correct them. IN PRIVATE.
The only time it’s OK to correct people unsolicited in public is if they’re being utter shits and acting as if they’re smarter than everybody else. Then go after each and every error they make as an object lesson in why you don’t act like an utter shit in a public space.
Yep it’s a classic symptom for me though. It’s often not nice for neuro people to have it pointed out to them, and it really isn’t nice when people do it to me. It’s embarrassing and taps into horrible memories from school.
If you spell something incorrectly and someone points it out (as long as they do this in a respectful way) why does that trigger you? You can clearly spell perfectly well so if you spell incorrectly on the odd occasion and someone tells you this it doesn’t imply something bad. If anything, you can improve your spelling for the future. 🤔
Just asking, please no hate.
I akshuly no a gy ho rites lik this, bekaze hys brane litrly kant komprihend the difrense betwen fonetiks and speling.
Just by talking to him, you’d never guess anything was wrong. He’s eloquent and well spoken. He can read just fine. But watching him type emails is an exercise in patience. He’s in his late 30’s and it’s not something that remedial classes or correction by his peers could “cure”.
There are a couple of words you might want to look up. These are “dyslexia” and “dysgraphia”.
For the latter, no, they cannot improve their spelling for the future. It is literally impossible and correcting them constantly is a huge drain on their self-worth.
(P.S. Good on you for asking, however, instead of lecturing.)
Thanks for asking. Neurodiverse people are often labelled as thick and/or lazy at school, I was one of them. I had times where I was humiliated by teachers in front of class etc for making errors, and faced ridicule from students. Parents and teachers would flip on me for making mistakes, and I just couldn’t stop making them. It all really damaged my self esteem, relationship with parents, and education.
There’s other reasons that’s just the main one. And it’s fairly common with neurodiverse people IME
Thanks for replying. These experiences sound like people weren’t treating you with respect when correcting your spelling. That’s obviously pretty shitty.
But if someone does respectfully correct your spelling would you still be upset and take offence at them?
What are they trying to achieve correcting someone like that? IME they always do it publicly (so not through friendly DM), and often say it with ridicule.
I would imagine they’re trying to help you learn the correct way to spell? That’s not a bad thing. Especially if it helps others understand the meaning of what you’re trying to convey.
Ive never seen someone with a comment history pattern of doing that, only people choosing to do it the once. And if they’re trying to help, why say it publicly and with ridicule?
Fair enough. I don’t know your personal circumstances so can’t comment. But if someone did that to me I wouldn’t assume malicious intent. I just assume they’re trying to engage and be friendly.
Yes, different perspectives I get it
This right here. Correcting ND people publicly is a shit move by shit people.
Until it is mentioned (often afterwards), how would one know the person is neurodivergent? Is it fine to correct someone making those mistakes who are neurotypical?
I think how the correction is made is the differing factor, because you can never have complete information about the people you reply to on a platform like this.
On the other side, there is definitely a time and place to correct people for simple mistakes, especially if you still understand what they mean. Replying to someone asking for help in a matter is probably not one of those times. Replying to someone pointing out other mistakes or lack of knowledge, I think, is a fine place to make corrections (respectfully).
Especially if no one is called out by name and insults aren’t being used.
Correcting in public is almost always a dick move. Precisely because you don’t know the circumstances:
Since you don’t know, shutting the fuck up in public is the best thing. Ask if they mind correction, and if the answer is negative, correct them. IN PRIVATE.
The only time it’s OK to correct people unsolicited in public is if they’re being utter shits and acting as if they’re smarter than everybody else. Then go after each and every error they make as an object lesson in why you don’t act like an utter shit in a public space.
Yep sadly that’s often the case