Just went over to p’s help them get ready for their little trip up to the murray.
Bit of a dark chat with mum when we were alone. She’s on a shitload of drops and drugs to prevent total blindness amongst other things. Said she’s sick of it doesn’t want to be here anymore. Just an hour before heading on a trip with her buds.
It’s a bit difficult to know how to go about that conversation.
She has the best care available but it’s pushing her to the limit.
Not after hugs, just saying (as I’m sure a few of us here already know), it can be a bit confronting even if you’re used to that conversation with others.
Yes, sometimes that’s all you can do. And it matters - matters a lot. She needed you to be there to hear her. It hurts to be there but keep listening. Feels.
Yeah that’s a really hard one. Not sure I have handled it well when faced with it myself. But listening is the best. It’s a natural feeling and being open to hearing it means that you can better judge how to help based on whether it’s a passing feeling, depression kicking in, or a genuine desire.
And then come here or to some other safe space and scream and kick and let out your own fears. You are doing good.
I’m so sorry. I’ve been in that place myself and sometimes all you can do is be there.
Accessibility options might help return a sense of control and help her take her mind off things but it’s really hard to be in that position and hopelessness does kick in.
Health bit of a downer
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Just went over to p’s help them get ready for their little trip up to the murray.
Bit of a dark chat with mum when we were alone. She’s on a shitload of drops and drugs to prevent total blindness amongst other things. Said she’s sick of it doesn’t want to be here anymore. Just an hour before heading on a trip with her buds.
It’s a bit difficult to know how to go about that conversation.
She has the best care available but it’s pushing her to the limit.
Not after hugs, just saying (as I’m sure a few of us here already know), it can be a bit confronting even if you’re used to that conversation with others.
Sometimes all you can do is listen
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Sometimes all you can do is listen
Yes, sometimes that’s all you can do. And it matters - matters a lot. She needed you to be there to hear her. It hurts to be there but keep listening. Feels.
Yeah that’s a really hard one. Not sure I have handled it well when faced with it myself. But listening is the best. It’s a natural feeling and being open to hearing it means that you can better judge how to help based on whether it’s a passing feeling, depression kicking in, or a genuine desire.
And then come here or to some other safe space and scream and kick and let out your own fears. You are doing good.
I’m so sorry. I’ve been in that place myself and sometimes all you can do is be there.
Accessibility options might help return a sense of control and help her take her mind off things but it’s really hard to be in that position and hopelessness does kick in.