What really made my stomach turn is that my Aunt had a smile on her face. At first I took it as maybe she’s trying to stay positive about the situation or having some odd nervous reaction but it was a huge huge smile as if she won the lottery. My grandma was not well off by any means so I highly doubt she had much in her will and my uncle was clearly not smiling in the picture.

She was also extremely unempathetic when my dad passed away during my mid 20s, telling me I need to man up and do better in life. I was working, in a relationship and doing my best to help my mom out. Am I overreacting or does she come off as a full blown sociopath?

  • ReanuKeeves@lemm.eeOPEnglish
    27·
    3 days ago

    Ya I get what you mean, it’s just keeping me up at 2:30 am so I thought I may as well try to get a third party opinion if possible to see if I’m overthinking, I agree with the ghosting

    • FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteEnglish
      22·
      3 days ago

      Most of us don’t have the luxury of choosing our families. We can just try to do the best with the hand we’re dealt. I’m sorry for your loss.

      Maybe delete the picture, put the phone down, and try to think of 20 great things about your grandmother.

      • ReanuKeeves@lemm.eeOPEnglish
        15·
        3 days ago

        Thank you, you’re right, I need to put my phone away and distract myself for a bit.

    • Eeyore_Syndrome@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      8·
      2 days ago

      Nah fuk that.

      I stopped talking to the rest of my family after my grandmother died.

      My father and brother died first actually.

      And nobody was there for me.

      Similar snubs at me for not visiting in hospital when I’m working to not starve/be homeless.

      😰😓🤬😖

      I had to work day of her funeral actually. Lol

      Venting over…my mum sent me a picture of our dead family cat Fred in a shoebox to let me know he was dead. Also posted it to Facebook.

      I personality took a picture of my father after he passed, in his hospice bed, before the Funeral Home took him away. But I sure as shit didn’t post it anywhere.

      • ReanuKeeves@lemm.eeOPEnglish
        1·
        2 days ago

        Older I get the more I know I need to accept that blood don’t mean shit, people are going to be terrible regardless of your relation

    • Azzu@lemm.ee
      81·
      3 days ago

      Well, if you want a good third party opinion, you should probably write up a few paragraphs about your aunt, include multiple key experiences that can show a couple things about her character, show the photo she took, show the reactions to the photo by others, talk about how the other people in that photo felt why they wanted to take the photo, and probably a couple more personal questions about you and others of your family.