Hi guys,

I realized that finding women pretty and desiring a connection with women who understand me (primarily straight women) who share my interests and love for men does not make me attracted to women. I cannot consider myself bisexual. Though I said I would date men and women and don’t have a preference, and that I simply didn’t care, maybe I’m just a depressed straight woman who doesn’t care about things.

I definitely like men: sexually and romantically, no question. I have plenty of male crushes I can easily name and think of. I like talking about men with my female friends. I want to DO stuff with men and don’t “just find them handsome”.

I’m a straight, Christian woman who goes to church. I love the Christian community and the idea of being religious. I pride myself in going to church and worshipping God.

I love men and find a lot of them really hot, even if I don’t find women sexually and romantically attractive. And being attracted to one gender, by definition, means I can’t be bi.

I will continue to support the LGBT community even if I only like men, and I won’t keep saying I’m something I’m not.

Thank you for reading

  • celeste@kbin.earth
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    3 days ago

    The journey we go on to learn more about ourselves isn’t always simple and straightforward.

    There were very brief moments in my past when I wondered if I might not be cis, but with consideration decided I would be upset if I was called a man. I realized, “oh! that must be what trans people experience all the time! that sucks!”

    so we can take these times when we weren’t sure of ourselves, and use our memories from then to embolden our allyship. I’m glad you’ve decided to go that route. there are so many lgbt people being hurt by religion right now, and if you can unambiguously accept them and love them for who they are (not in spite of), you might help someone keep going when they might otherwise opt not to.