I’m a bisexual 19-year-old woman. I never dated a woman before. I came close to dating a girl who matched my type (literally my type but female) at 16 but I won’t talk about why.

I can’t even name a woman I’ve ever been attracted to nor a woman I’d date, I just wanted to try it in high school.

I don’t even have feelings for non-binary people. They’re alright, but I would probably never go out with them. I know for certain that I like men.

Men are hot. They give me a spark, they make me feel that special way, and not only could I see myself dating/having sex with a man, but I would also enjoy it. (Because I know some asexual people, for example, can imagine having sex but would not enjoy it due to having little to no sexual attraction.)

Women are stunning. I’ve never really had a crush, and while I can imagine myself dating one, I can’t imagine myself having sex with one at ALL.

But I guess I sort of like it when a woman compliments me and treats me like I’m the best, and I really just want a woman who has common interests with me. (One who likes makeup, TikTok, men, etc.)

I’m not homophobic or anything, but I would not date a lesbian simply because they don’t like men and I can’t relate. But that doesn’t mean I think of women as just friends. It just means that I may prefer men to women romantically and sexually for sure.

(I realize biromantic straight women also exist, or maybe bicurious straight women, I dunno.)

(When I say I’m bi, this is a good representation of what I mean)

  • dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    5·
    15 hours ago

    I’m like you, but in reverse (mostly attracted to women, only incidentally attracted to men - would probably not want to actually date a man).

    It is a bit annoying that if you tell someone you are bi, they assume you are equally attracted to various genders, though I think this happens more with straight people who haven’t thought about sexuality much.

    • CatDemons4OPEnglish
      22·
      15 hours ago

      Thank you for getting it. It’s truly annoying.

      • dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        2·
        15 hours ago

        At this point I feel like it’s fine to just let people make bad assumptions. If they’re upset upon learning you are somewhere other than where they expected you to be on the bi spectrum, it’s not like you were dishonest because they made bad assumptions. Telling them you are straight would have been a bigger lie, anyway.