• @Globulart@lemmy.world
    34•1 year ago

    The Internet is a depressing place today :(

    Is this because OP doesn’t like people talking about their happiness which they’ve been unable to find? Or is it they think true love doesn’t exist?

    Either way, sorry.

    • RQG
      7•1 year ago

      I think the whole true love thing is bullshit and I am in a very happy longterm relationship. But it’s just love. Love is the feeling that it is. There is no true version of it. All love is the same. But relationships are not built on love alone. The true love concept makes it come across to me that way though. That if things don’t work out your love just wasn’t true enough. You just have to love harder and truer next time. It’s even worse when the concept gets extended to there only being one true love per lifetime or whatever.

      It’s not that. Imo all love is created equal. It’s the other factors that make things work or not work. Compatibility with the partner, how hard you try, how much you try, how mature you are. Honesty, trust. But also external factors such as how easy or hard life is at that time for you. Even the greatest relationships can fall apart in the shittiest of times. Doesn’t make the love less true.

      I’m not ranting. You’re ranting.

      • @funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works
        4•1 year ago

        conversely, I’d argue that subjective feelings are always true - but they may disagree. I can be angry at you for no good reason, doesn’t mean I’m not angry, it just means I shouldn’t be in your opinion, but I should be in mine. All those things can be true simultaneously.

        • RQG
          1•1 year ago

          To add to that from my experience I can even be angry for no good reason and at the same time logically think I shouldn’t be. Even that doesn’t make the feelings untrue. It just makes me know they might not be justified or reasonable. And feelings can be all that.

      • @irmoz@reddthat.com
        4•1 year ago

        Nah I’m not about that spiritual “soulmate” nonsense. ‘True love’ just means love. Not infatuation, lust, or being manipulated.

    • DreamButtEnglish
      2•1 year ago

      I think it’s more the idea that people who chase “the one,” tend to be pretty toxic. It’s much important to focus on finding a partner who treats you well then thinking there’s some sort of magic to the whole thing

        • DreamButtEnglish
          0•1 year ago

          No but a lot of young people obsessed with finding “the one,” or “true love” put the entire concept on a pedestal. Which is more the point I think OP is making

          • @irmoz@reddthat.com
            0•1 year ago

            You’re having to read between the lines a hell of a lot to assume that. I’m just working with what’s there. To me, true love is just love. Simple as that.

      • DaBabyAteMaDingo
        2•1 year ago

        It’s the most important part! Remember, when you’re filling out your dating profile, keep the salary figure within reason or they’ll know you’re being yourself a little too hard.

        I always find that “a little over six figures” is just vague enough to get you out of a jamb should they find out about your disgusting financial situation! Almost like saying you’re six feet tall: who’s gonna prove you’re really 5’-9" unless they measure you!