If there’s a chance of sex I don’t think the average male is going to care if you wear grinch pyjamas.
In my 20s, this girl I met was vomiting from both ends from a bad night of partying, and I was there taking care of her. She ugly-cried about how other guys left her in her mess.
We’ve been married for more than a decade.
Hell yeah. When I met my wife, she was overweight and all her previous relationships had ended because of her Ichthyosis. It’s a bad skin condition which makes her have scales all over (or at least mostly all over) – she doesn’t have the WORST kind, but she was kind and loving; but very emotionally damaged from it. We’ve been together 20 years now, and now she’s the super skinny one, and the skin condition has never bothered me. Now I am the one getting the looks like “How’d this ugly mother fucker bag HER?!”
Looks is great and all, but it’s not everything. And Marriage isn’t a picnic either - you gotta be stupidly open and honest to not let any secrets brew between you. She’s my best friend and honestly I couldn’t live without her.
I was hanging out with this woman and we made some boffer swords. Now, these are soft… ish. They’re made from half-inch PVC with foam pool noodle on top and the whole thing wrapped in duct tape. You can take a direct hit from one of these without it seriously injuring you, but it’s not exactly pleasant. She had little to no experience with larping, but we took them out on the driveway and went at it a bit. I accidentally, and I really want to emphasize that, accidentally hit her full in the face with this foam bat. I apologized and we went again… and then I full-on hit her in the face again. And I apologized, and she smiled, and we continued to have a good time sword fighting.
So anyway, we got married and our daughter is almost five now.
I find comfy PJs to be very sexy. You can have all the fancy bedroom decor you want but if your Sims aren’t relaxed they’re not gonna make whoopie.
That’s a really insightful point! The idea of presenting your true self early in the relationship is key because it sets a solid foundation for authenticity and trust. If you’re constantly putting on a facade, eventually, it becomes exhausting to keep up the act. People are naturally drawn to authenticity, and the sooner you show your true self, the better your partner can decide if they are truly compatible with you—not just the version you’re presenting.
If the relationship is based on a version of yourself that’s not real or sustainable, it will eventually crack under the weight of that pressure. On the flip side, if a partner genuinely loves and appreciates you for who you are—without all the extra effort to impress—then it can create a stronger, more resilient bond.
Jokes on you, I love that look.
Absolutely! In my college, girls with messy buns and sweat pants WAS the fashion.
The wholesome message here is that you have to present your true self to your partner, rather early in the relationship. Eventually, you’re going to become comfortable and start putting less effort into your appearance and behaviors. If it ends up being the case that your partner is not attracted to you in your default state, the relationship is doomed to fail.
rather early
Make that straight away. Be someone who can put in some effort for special occasions (like dates) but never give the impression you are anyone you are not.
I find that it’s best to restrain my excessive (pathological, frankly) flatulence until at least the 4th date. I definitely do attempt to falsely present myself as someone who lacks excessive gas.
Dutch ovened my now wife on our third date like 16 years ago
broke her brain for a couple of minutes while she tried to be pissed and shocked but couldn’t stop laughing lol
