3 months later back to zero.

People say that dying isn’t the solution… But piling this with my eternal single status, loneliness and other problems…

Life is a torture.

  • jet@hackertalks.comEnglish
    5·
    12 hours ago

    Your basing your happiness on external things like if people like you. That is not a good way to live.

    Find purpose you are happy with, focus on that, don’t worry about others or love, and your focus and purpose will actually fix the other problems.

    • Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.techEnglish
      21·
      11 hours ago

      Bro constantly posts here about how everyone else makes his life horrible, but then constantly refuses to change in any way. Constantly posting about being single but refusing some really good and honest advice I’ve seen. I’m just done with their sympathy posts.

      • orca@orcas.enjoying.yachtsEnglish
        3·
        5 hours ago

        I saw someone give him genuine advice in a comment and his reply was simply “no.” I get that there are folks legitimately asking for help, but if you constantly bait people with “woe is me” posts and then refuse to listen to a single shred of advice, I have zero to offer.

        Life is hard and the best thing that has helped me is finding joy in simpler things through the lens of Taoist philosophy, pulling myself away from screens, and reading more books. At some point you have to take the reins here and live for you, instead of hinging life on what everyone else is doing.

      • jet@hackertalks.comEnglish
        10·
        11 hours ago

        100%; It’s attention seeking behavior. As far as their implied threat goes, they either will, or they wont. If we engage with the threat, that just feeds into the attention seeking behavior.

        So I give what advice I can, and the rest is up to them.

        A lot of lemmy doesn’t respond well to tough love, which some people need, you can’t just enable people stuck in a rut to stay in the rut forever!

        Any post where people are encouraged to be the agent of their own self actualization is met with a flood of downvotes, in my experience.

        • I live with my parents : So what? That’s normal in most of the world
        • I don’t have a love interest : Become interesting first! Nobody owes you their affection
        • I never had sex : It’s not so important, but if its a real blocker there are providers of negotiable affection
        • I’m lonely : Yeah? Most men are lonely even in their own busy lives, being around people and being understood are different. If you want connections you have to make them, be accessible, and be a resource to those you care about.
        • Back to zero : NOT AT ALL! You have a new phone (from their posts), more world experience, and now a better idea on what you like to do and where you can do it.

        Decide what you need to change in your life to improve it, and make a plan, and do it.