• grrgyle@slrpnk.net
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    13 hours ago

    In a world where async communication is effortless, demanding immediate attention is antisocial.

    You’re saying that you don’t care what I’m doing at the moment. You want my full attention immediately. Even leaving a message is more of a time waste than a simple text message

    1. don’t call unless it’s urgent
    2. if you’re calling me it’s not urgent

    This doesn’t apply to landlines, ofc

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      11 hours ago

      Strong disagree. A phone call isn’t a demand, and doesn’t mean that you don’t care what the other person is doing. It’s a request to talk to them, and can always be declined. Some things are more quickly and easily sorted out by phone call than text.

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        10 hours ago

        I guess that can be true because my phone is usually on silent, but a message would still be preferable because a missed call in my notifications doesn’t tell me much of anything.

        I would also put forward that a request to talk could also take the form of a request to talk, like hey are you free to talk about my part in the xyz project?

        PS. I would ask the people who you call if they would prefer a text first. It could be you’re calling people who are like you, but it’s also possible that you’re calling people like me, and they’re too polite to tell you.