So, my friend Ana and I are cool now, but I’ve been thinking about this one situation, since I can’t really forget what she said to me. It honestly scared me…

It was around the time that girls our age were getting boyfriends, and I (~14F at the time) told my friends about Austin (my BF at the time, almost 15M). Anyway, at the same time, my friend Ana (14F) went on her first middle-school date with her BF Jake.

Excited, she wanted me to be there to tell our friend group the news due to her excitement.

I was there to tell our one friend Steph, but for the rest of her friends, I wasn’t there, and Ana told them alone.

When I got home, I received an angry text from Ana, angrily spamming my name in all caps and calling me a bitch.

I asked what happened. She told me I was playing dumb and that I knew exactly what happened: that I was a gossip who told Steph about Jake, and that it was my fault that Steph didn’t respond excitedly. It was my fault, apparently, that Steph just said “That’s amazing!” and nothing more.

Ana then told me to “clean up [her] mess, bitch” and that I was a horrible friend for telling Steph the news, and that I “should be ashamed of myself”.

Not a long time after, Jake broke up with her, as he apparently found her romantically with another guy.

She blamed me for this and said that I lied to him when I didn’t tell Jake anything, as I don’t know the guy, which I told her. Ana told Steph that Jake broke up because he lost feelings for her, but Steph then replied, “That’s not what HE told me.”

Ana apologized for all the insults she called me after she settled things straight with Jake, Steph, and me, and while I forgive her and we’re friends again, I still can’t forget what she did. Was I overreacting to block her until she calmed down, and is it “sensitive” of me to not trust her as much as I once did?

She also said that she shouldn’t have pulled me into things and just should’ve told Steph herself.

Would it be rude to say no the next time she asks me to do something?