• @Hacksaw@lemmy.ca
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    18 months ago

    Well a prenup is a contract designed to protect your partner from you. The fact your partner thinks they need to be protected from you is painful when you’re trying to tie your lives together. Although obviously it has its uses, I’m just trying to show that being approached for a prenup will evoke negative emotions if you weren’t planning it.

    The second part is the knowledge that your partner is ready and prepared to leave at any time brings uncertainty to the relationship.

    Your partner is rarely going to be immediately receptive to your prepping to be apart or to leave. That being said, if you approach preparedness as a team activity and they’re included in the plan, it will generally go much better.

    • Ð Greıt Þu̇mpkin
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      -18 months ago

      It’s only a problem if they do something to warrant leaving. Should really only take offense if your intention is to use the marriage as an entrapment of the partner that they can’t get out of without incurring massive financial costs both in legal fees and in giving you your pound of flesh for having the gall to stand up for themselves.

      The fact that they aren’t mandatory to secure a marriage license I think explains the high rates of divorce this country can see at times, immature people who have no business tying the knot getting married with little thought into how serious what they’re doing actually is.

      Making them prove they understand what they’re getting into by outlining their entwined finances and how they’d be undone would significantly reduce the number of marriages doomed to fail.

      If you can’t stand the thought of your partner being able to leave, you have no business seeking a partner.