“That isn’t happening”

  • Neato
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    59 months ago

    What if a student asks to be called a preferred name/pronoun and parents object? Unless the student is 18, parents’ requests should govern.

    This part makes no sense to me. Don’t inform parents unless the student is OK with it. But if the parent tells the teacher to call the blank and the student disagrees, ignore the student. Is that just to prevent the teacher screwing up and calling the student by their preferred name to the parents accidentally?

    • @BassaForte@lemmy.world
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      89 months ago

      Why the fuck does a student need permission from their parents to be addressed how they want to be addressed?

    • Kabe
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      9 months ago

      I don’t think so - to me it seems more about weighing up the student’s need vs the parents’ decision. The school district want to honor the student’s wishes as much as possible but if they are <18 they are not legally an adult, so the school ultimately should defer to the parents.

      Sensible from legal standpoint, even though it would suck for the student.

      • @RGB3x3@lemmy.world
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        49 months ago

        It’s a really dumb take too, though. What if a student named Annabel wants to be called Anna? When Jacob wants to be called Jake? Do the parents really need to be involved in that? When do we let children start making decisions about their own lives? When they want to take on thousands in student loans at 17? When they don’t do their work and are permanently punished for it? Are they adults or not?

        Not arguing with you, just pointing things out.

      • Neato
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        29 months ago

        but if they are <18 they are not legally an adult, so the school ultimately should defer to the parents.

        But then what about the rest of these recommendations that say not to tell the parent anything if the child doesn’t wish it? Does the child get to make the decisions on how they present themselves and their identity and who gets to know that or not?