Does anyone else vacillate between feeling hot (attractive) and repellant?

Some days I feel like all the women around me find me desirable, and other days I feel like none of them do. I rarely feel ‘in between’.

I don’t really like feeling either extreme. For one thing, I don’t trust either feeling! Feeling unattractive is obviously a bad feeling, but feeling ultra attractive is also bad. It leads me to uncomfortable fantasies and an inability to distinguish normal interactions from flirtation.

Does anyone else feel like this?

  • @moody
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    310 months ago

    I feel it much more depending on my grooming. Not so much in terms of smell, as I take care of that pretty well, but in terms of keeping my hair kempt, and beard trimmed and shaved neatly which I’m often lazy about.

    • @electric_nan@lemmy.mlOP
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      210 months ago

      That could also be part of it for me. I’m that average white dude that’s bald with a beard. I definitely feel better with my head and neck freshly buzzed.