Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.
  • @Coreidan@lemmy.worldEnglish
    -9•8 months ago

    Ya but it would help a lot if you didn’t blame it on men. It’s a problem for both sexes.

    There are a lot of shit awful women out there too. You’re not special. You’re not a gift from god. 😊. We’re all dealing with it.

    • StarEnglish
      7•8 months ago

      But the problem is men. The shitty men. Are you a shitty man? You are not the problem.

      Women can be shit too. This article ia talking about shitty men. It doesn’t erase the fact there are shitty women.

      • @Coreidan@lemmy.worldEnglish
        -8•8 months ago

        Ya I get it, the article is just about someone who is complaining that they can’t meet a decent guy.

        I guess I just don’t understand the point tho, because I can just write an article too complaining about all the shitty women out there, and then write a title that indicates that the whole reason marriages are dwindling is because of women.

        If you can’t meet a decent guy then chances are you are doing something wrong. That makes you the problem too. Maybe you hang out with the wrong crowd. Maybe you have poor judgement. Could be a lot of reasons, but pinning everything on “men suck” comes off as super disingenuous.

        I am not taking it personally, but just pointing out the fact that it take two to tango, and if it’s not working out for you then MAYBE you need to spend a little extra time on yourself instead of jumping to the blame game. We all have a lot of trouble with self reflection.

        I think this person gets a lot of negative reaction from their personality and they blame others for their failures. That’s how I read the article.

        • StarEnglish
          7•8 months ago

          And you are trying to find a reason the woman is the problem. You sound like one of the guys that might fit the problem.

        • StarEnglish
          -2•8 months ago

          Groups of guys talk about the bitches they’ve met. It’s a problem. It sucks to meet a bitch.

          Groups of girls talk about the shitty guys they’ve met. It’s a problem. It sucks to meet a shiity guy.

          One scenario is normalized and the other is offensive to some. Can you help me understand?

          • @Coreidan@lemmy.worldEnglish
            -5•8 months ago

            What about all the women calling men dumb or whatever insult you want to throw in there?

            Why is it always one sided for you? Do you just prefer playing victim instead? I don’t get it.

            It’s a problem for both sexes. I’m starting to think YOU are the problem.

            • StarEnglish
              4•8 months ago

              What about all the men calling women whores and bitches and bimbos and dumb blondes and…

              ???

              I literally stated it is a problem on both sides. Whatever

              • @Coreidan@lemmy.worldEnglish
                -3•8 months ago

                No you’ve literally said it’s all the fault of men.

                You won’t accept any responsibility.

                All men suck. All women are the best. Right? Did I nail your opinion?

                Good talk. This is where you get ghosted.

                • StarEnglish
                  1•8 months ago

                  Did you not read the next line? Where i specify the shitty men? Come on.

                  I literally called women shitty.

                  You’re being… idk