I know a lot of people but I find it really difficult to maintain contact with most of them. I can manage a few in my close circle and some acquaintances but definitely not more than 20 people.

It doesn’t take much time for the gap to widen and before you know it they’ll start treating you like a stranger.

So I was thinking whether there’s something like the Forgetting curve for relationships.

Maybe finding out the optimal time interval can help me set reminders to connect with a few people now and then.

Well this was just a though that randomly came to me. I thought I’d ask the wonderful people over here.

  • @Goob_@lemmy.world
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    11 year ago

    Personally, I don’t have many past relationships that I am interested in rekindling or maintaining. I have a small group of close friends, a larger group of not as close friends, and my family. Beyond that I have work acquaintances, but those are people you’re sort of forced to see and spend time with. We meet lots of people over the course of our lives. Some are there to stay, and others aren’t. Maybe you no longer have the same interests or worldviews. Maybe someone had a kid or got involved with a partner that took all of their attention. Are these people you genuinely want to reconnect with, or do you feel obligated to check in because of your history with them? In any case, it’s probably worth remembering that your brain can only handle so many relationships. In my case, I’ve found my relationship comfort zone and am very happy to have the people in my life that I do, and don’t feel a need to search for more.